10 Non-Allowance Questions to Ask a POT

By Ashleigh

Nov 19, 2015

Let’s paint a picture. You’re on a date with a very promising POT, and the talk of settling on a mutually beneficial arrangement arises. While we know you have Sugar on your mind, you need to not make the rookie mistake of jumping straight to talk of allowance. Desperation is never a good look, and can quickly turn him off all together.

Lucky for you, there are plenty of questions to ask to ensure you’re getting the best of your arrangement — before you text him your PayPal email. Here are ten non-allowance questions to ask a POT.

What are your expectations from the arrangement?  

Honesty and transparency are the foundation for a drama-free arrangement.

Have you had arrangements in the past?

If he’s new to the Sugar Bowl, he may need some coaching on a proper arrangement.

Why did your last arrangement end?

If it wasn’t amicable, it could be a forewarning to issues down the road.

Do you like to travel?

This gives you a peek into how much he’s willing to spend and if you will be accompanying him.

Is it okay for me to call or message you?

This will help you get an idea of the level of discretion he will be seeking.

What do you feel is missing from your life?

This helps you see if you’re a good fit for the void in his life.

Are you looking for a NSA arrangement or a potential relationship?

You have to be sure that your wants are in line with his or you won’t have a solid arrangement.

Are you looking for an exclusive relationship?

Much like the NSA question, you’ll get a deeper understanding of the POTs intentions in the arrangement.

Do you have any hobbies?

If you’re considering an arrangement with the man, you’re going to want to get to know him better.

Can you mentor and help me along my career path?

Depending on what your POT does, you could learn a lot of valuable information to better your career in addition to your Sugar. An added value for any goal digger.


Allowance aside, what are your must-ask questions for POTs?