Let’s say, for example, that you’ve been talking to a POT and you’re ready to move forward with whatever it may be. You’ve been having a lot of fun talking, but maybe it’s time to actually meet in person so that you and daddy can both make sure that you are both the kind of person you’re looking for- and what you two can bring to each other’s lives.
Most POTs love a girl who is going to be confident enough to be able to ask him out and will put forth the effort to create the plan so that you two can have fun together. Men love when women take charge, not just sexually. So, let’s talk about when things are going well but you’re still just texting/talking over the phone. What if you want to move towards meeting in person but he still hasn’t suggested it? Well, girl, it’s time to take matters into your own hands.
String him along
I’m not the type to encourage a girl to string a man along, but there is nothing wrong with being a little playful and letting him know that “this just isn’t working,” along with the fact that the two of you are going to have to get together ASAP so that you can grab coffee and make sure that he really is as hot in real life as he looks in person. It might get him freaked out, but he’ll also probably love the playfulness you show.
Bonus: It might just make him realize how much he is looking forward to seeing you when you imply for a second that things just “aren’t working” and he might even be more than eager to see you!
Ask to buy him a cup of coffee
Yeah, I know he’s the POT, right? But ever a man loved to feel spoiled and ask him out for a cup of coffee. On you.
Let your POT know right off the bat that it’s not just about the money.
Use the “extra ticket” excuse to invite him out
We’ve all actually had it happen, right? We get an extra ticket and can’t seem to get rid of it, we can’t seem to find anyone to go to the movies, or wherever, so you’re left wondering or posting about it online. Don’t do that this time, ask a POT to go with you.
Even if that means that you’ve gotta buy two tickets just to make sure you have the extra one.
Tell him about something you’d really like to do
Talk to your POT about something that you would really like to try, or something that you love doing, and suggest that the two of you do it together.
If your POT is interested, then you two can make plans to do it together and it won’t only be an awesome way for you two to meet each other and get to know each other, but its a memorable first date and hopefully a hobby that the two of you can have together in the future.
The “I’m bored” route
This is an easy one, and the truth is it’s going to give your POT a clear signal that you’re hoping to hang out with him so, if he wants, he can ask you out and if he doesn’t clue into it then you can just follow it up with “Let’s get coffee” or asking if he’s free to hang out- either way, it will probably lead to a chance to grab coffee together.