My Brown Sugar Experience: 18 Months In

By Zenya Rose

Jun 28, 2017

My time in the Sugar Bowl has gone by faster than I ever imagined it would. I joined the site not knowing what to expect. Throughout the past year and a half I have had some awesome ups and downs within the community. Here are some of the highs and lows of my Brown Sugar experience.

BEING NICHE IS NOT A SETBACK

I don’t have to harp on the rejection all Sugar Babies go through. Be it race, weight, lifestyle or location preferences we have all been there. Just like in traditional dating rejection leaves a sting. However, in my time on SeekingArrangement I have found that within the sea of rejection are PLENTY of POTs looking for someone precisely like you!

I may not have had many connections but the four Sugar Daddy’s I’ve had have been long term and monogamous. Each lasted a minimum of six months before we parted for whatever reason. This is opposed to short-lived flings which are just not my style. I’ve never had to worry about him finding someone he liked more because I knew that I was exactly what he was looking for. We were lucky to have each other. When both you and your Sugar Daddy are happy to have each other you don’t have to worry about them going anywhere!

SAVE YOUR SUGAR

Within the past year I have come in contact with upwards of $10,000. Most of it being in cold hard cash. Short of a few trips I took and documented via Instagram I don’t have much to show for it. That is not good money management and I’m ashamed of how I chose to handle it. If you work like I do, put your Sugar money in your savings and live off your own income. Splurge occasionally. Don’t treat yourself every weekend like I did. You will be glad you did!

FOLLOW YOUR SUGAR SISTERS

Did you go to the Sugar Summit? Do you regularly post in the forums? Follow your Sugar Sisters on social media. I followed a few and it makes me feel good to see my friends do well. Encourage each other and build each other up. It is nice having a group of friends you don’t have to explain yourself to. Don’t underestimate the power of a quality support system!

DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP

One of the greatest things a Sugar Daddy has ever done for me was getting me a hotel room when I was too hungover to drive without getting dizzy. A close second would be paying for my Uber when I was far too drunk to drive. Looking back, I should have cut back on the drinking. But don’t be afraid to ask your Sugar Daddy for help with the little things. Men love to be the knight in shining armor to save the day!

DONT’ BE AFRAID TO SAY NO

If a random messages you on SeekingArrangement and asks for your bank information.
If a POT wants to meet late at night in a private location for a meet and greet.
If you Sugar Daddy asks to do something you are uncomfortable with.

People can’t respect boundaries if they don’t know what the boundaries are. A real Sugar Daddy will understand your safety and personal preferences and would never try to make you compromise on those things. Someone who is serious about you knows that are you worth doing things according to your own pace. Let the jackass who doesn’t understand that go.

SUGAR WITH INTENTION

When I first started out I was a college junior with no boyfriend and plenty of time to kill. Now I am looking at my upcoming graduation and I don’t want a new purse, I want a down payment on a new car.

Now my Pinterest searches consist of furniture and appliances. I guess that is part of growing up. But Sugaring can grow with you! My current Sugar Daddy supports my education 100% and when I tell him about my job search he gives me pointers. He even offered me an internship! When your Sugar Daddy is aware and involved with your endeavors he gets excited to help you get started. He wants to see you succeed and doesn’t mind chipping in to help out.

Sugaring for the sake of it, is fun! Personally, now that I have been involved in the Sugar Bowl for 10 months my goals are changing but sugaring is changing with me. It’s been a great 18 months… I can’t wait to see what the next 10 months bring!