Do’s and Don’ts of Messaging

By Bria Lea

Apr 08, 2018
Messaging is a key aspect to dating online and is a way of getting to meet new SD’s. The importance of communication, support, and respect is what SD’s really need and enjoy when dating.  Learn what not to do on SA messenger and improve your ways of dating on SA or any other dating site, as in not asking to send pictures right off of the bat, not having it be just all about sex, and not being overly needy.


Private Photos 

When using SA, you have the option to have private photos and can only allow certain people to access them. So when someone asks you if they can see your private photos, just take a look at their profile and see if you like them. Don’t assume there is anything wrong with sharing them, but make sure they are pictures you are okay with appearing on the internet. No nudes! SDs just want pictures of you because they want to get an overall sense of what you are like maybe before meeting you. But be careful and don’t just go out, sending risqué pictures to every guy that you meet on SA. Have self-respect before sending pictures and know the importance of your overall self-worth.


Good Conversations

When talking to new SD’s on Seeking Arrangements, you want to be able to have a good conversation that keeps your attention and makes you want to continue getting to know them. I think what really intrigues an SD and keeps his attention is if you have good pictures on your profile and a good description of yourself, then they’ll want to message you and go from there.

A good conversation could be talking about something that you have in common, like career, school, traveling or goals in life. I think that when it comes to starting up a conversation with someone new that you don’t really know and you want to keep it genuine, then just be yourself, don’t be fake or act stupid, and talk about cool topics like music, festivals, hobbies, and other interests.
A good conversation with an SD involves something other than just sex, dick pics, and how much they want you or “what’s UP” text messages. What I’ve learned from experiences in conversation is SA, is that is a new guy reaches out to you and you like him, then allow it to go somewhere by being engaging and asking questions, like where you are from, what you do for a living, or if you use SA often. You’ll then see how good conversations in messaging online leads to something better in person.


Communication & Support 

It’s important not to give yourself away to fast and to have boundaries. You don’t want to be handing out your information online to SD’s that you don’t know and have not met in person yet. When you keep to yourself, it’s better that way because it makes men want to know you more from a new perspective, rather than just some girl on a dating website. If you want an allowance and financial support, never just ask for it upfront. Just let it happen when the time is right and it will come to you.

Here is my list of Messaging Do’s and Dont’s:

  • Do use good grammar.
  • Don’t use “lol’s” or emojis to express yourself too much in messaging.
  • Don’t respond like right away this very minute.
  • Do give a little and then step back and let it happen when the time is right.
  • I think something that is really important when it comes to dating is to support one another in all ways. You want more than just a text message saying “what’s up,” every day and it’s important that there is something more than just texts and messages online.
  • Do be supportive and nice.
  • Don’t ignore and be rude.
  • What is attractive is someone who keeps up the conversation, makes you laugh and continues to keep your attention.
  • Don’t over try and send like five text messages within the same hour. If you try too hard, then it just makes it seem like it all just comes from your end and you are getting nothing in return. When there should be a good balance between the both.
  • Keep is sweet and sugary when just being yourself and knowing that you deserve the best.

What are your do’s and don’ts for messaging?