As Sugar Babies, we all think that having a Sugar Daddy means that it’s a one sided arrangement. We always have that mindset that Sugar Daddies have it all and there’s not really much (materially) that we can give them because they’re able to provide it themselves.
Personally, I see a gift as a gift. It’s really how the SD decides to take it. Naturally, when we are given something by someone, our automatic reaction would be to accept the gift and say thank you, so really and truly, it should be the thought that counts.
I remember last year, I had an arrangement with a Sugar Daddy from Moscow who had it all. The fancy cars, the money, the houses in different countries, the latest fashion items…let’s just say he was a very lucky guy. Just like you, I was wondering what on earth I should get him for his birthday as it was fast approaching. Like a complete amateur, I turned to google and the responses were fairly similar…a gift is a gift and he should be thankful either way.
So, I ended up getting him personalized cufflinks and a birthday card. Now, you are probably thinking with the arrangement we had and the ‘allowance’ I was getting from him, I could’ve gotten him something a bit more pricey or flashy. I wholeheartedly agree with that, but I felt as though if I did do that, it would have to be the best of the best. For example, if I were to get him a watch, I wouldn’t exactly get him the cheapest one there, and let’s not forget that a watch is fairly expensive in itself.
Now, my experience doesn’t exactly mean that you’ll get the same positive response that I did (even though you should). But it does mean that the majority of people in this world should act exactly the same way. Remember girlies, you didn’t have to get him a gift for his birthday, as it wasn’t included in the arrangement that you have both agreed on, but it was out of the goodness and kindness of your heart (and possibly a little guilt) that allowed you to proceed with getting your Sugar Daddy a birthday gift.
Oh yes…the guilt! Girls, don’t feel pressured to get him a gift if you feel you don’t need to, or even if you don’t want to. You’re not obliged to do anything you don’t want to. It, of course will be a different situation if you had discussed otherwise prior to the arrangement. But if nothing was mentioned, simply do it or don’t do it.
Also remember that you are the gift, not to make it sound like you’re giving yourself away for a lavish lifestyle, but your presence and your willingness to have fun is a SD’s biggest gift.
I’ve also realized over time that a gift doesn’t need to be for him, it can be a gift for you that will benefit him. For example, if you both have a sexual relationship, you can buy new lingerie for yourself that you know he will like.
The moral of the story is, if you can get your SD a gift, by all means do it, even if it’s something small (even if it’s only a birthday card). Remember, it’s the thought that counts, and he will cherish you more for taking your time out to get him something, but if you can’t, he will understand.
Don’t beat yourself up about it girlies! It’s definitely not as serious as you’re making it out to be!