I understand that many ladies go into Sugar because they have a temporary, specific material needs and by dating an older man they may be able to solve those needs. Maybe you just moved to NYC for grad school and are faced with the competitive and expensive reality of living in a large metropolitan center for the first time. Or perhaps you’re trying to start your first business. Just a few examples…
To the prospective Sugar Babies, I urge you to learn as much as you can from any potential Sugar Daddies. Knowledge you gain goes beyond just the monetary or material things. Learning from your Sugar Daddy will give you an arrangement that benefits you long after it’s over.
A True Mentor
Assuming you are with the right SD, you might think of this as a unique opportunity to spend time with an older mentor. Someone who is a lot more experienced in certain businesses than you are at your relatively young age. To be honest, I would have done anything, when I was 25 just starting out in my finance career, for the chance to spend some extensive time with someone successful and listen to their advice and hear their opinions about things. Now we are talking about life changing experiences, ones that money can’t buy.
Questions to Ask
- What would you ask your Sugar Daddy, when you are at dinner and getting into a deep and interesting conversation? You can start with the following:
- How did you first become interested in your career/fields of work?
- How did you get your first break in this business, and did you expect it? How did you recognize it was a good opportunity?
- What is the most valuable lesson you learned in your your career?
After all, according to many women I have spoken to, the best and most memorable Sugar dating situations are those where the Sugar Daddy takes some interest in the woman’s career, and where the Sugar Baby is able to get her start through his help. That will be one man you won’t soon forget.
I try think of these experiences in a more multidimensional way than many of the men you might meet out there. I am certainly not advocating that you take advantage of people just to get a career break, but you should use every out of the box opportunity (like spending time with an older successful individual) as a chance to better yourself and advance your own life: personally as well as professionally. Material and intangible ways can have long term implications for you. If I were 25 today, I would pick a Sugar Daddy’s brain, learn from his mistakes, and become inspired by his success.