My Rookie Mistake

By ErinIncognito

Apr 13, 2016

Anytime I find a new Sugar Baby who is just entering the Bowl, the first piece of advice I’d give them is “be patient”. We all know that is easier said than done. We live in a society where we want what we want, and we want it NOW! So when we set our minds to getting a Sugar Daddy, we aren’t thinking with clear heads about exactly how long that will take. Being impatient can lead to sticky situations, so I hope after reading this, you’ll be sure not to repeat my rookie mistake.

Entering the Bowl

I was sitting on the couch in my apartment one day and  took a look at my bank account- OUCH! Things didn’t add up. I wasn’t a big spender, but I couldn’t seem to get ahead. A friend had mentioned Sugar Dating, and seeing my balance have a negative sign in front of it just pushed me to make it happen. I joined SeekingArrangement and started searching.

As soon as my profile was approved, messages started to pile in. I immediately connected with one POT in particular. He was about to get off of work and asked me to meet him for a drink at a local bar. I obliged. I couldn’t believe that I was meeting someone the same day I joined the website! I was so excited – I was about to be a Sugar Baby!

First Mistake

We had a nice time talking and the next day, he asked to see me again. We went out again, and he asked me back to his home. I had no idea what to expect with the monetary aspect of it or when we would discuss it. We ended up in the bedroom, he handed me some money, and I left. I thought that was just so easy! I was just a typical wide-eyed brand new Sugar Baby who didn’t understand how things worked.

I never heard from him again.


Did I do something wrong? Was it my body? Was I awful in the bedroom? We got along the night before, and he said he was really into me – so what happened? It took me a while to realize that he wasn’t a real Sugar Daddy and he got exactly what he wanted out of the situation. But, I kept my head up and kept on searching. I regrettably ended up going to several houses for dates, which I knew was dangerous. I lived in a small town and thought that it was going to be harmless. Not only was that extremely dangerous, but I ended up in some awkward situations because I didn’t know what was expected of me because we never actually went on a real date beforehand. I started to believe that Sugar Dating was impossible in a small town like mine.

Cautionary Tale

It wasn’t until after my first Sugar Daddy that I realized that I had fallen into the trap of impatience. This  is a mistake that plenty of rookies make. I understand: you’re broke, bills are piling up and you don’t know how you’re going to pay them. Remember, Sugaring isn’t a quick fix to your financial issues. It’s a lifestyle, and you have to play the game.