There are two types of Daddies: the ones who love planning out a romantic evening, and the ones who would rather sit back and let you take the wheel. What do you do if you’re new to the world of fine dining, and you land the second type of Daddy? How do you quickly and easily come up with great restaurant options? Here are a few things to keep in mind about how to pick the perfect restaurant.
FEEL HIM OUT
The first step to picking out the perfect place is knowing what atmosphere will best suit the two of you. In this department, the legwork is already done—assuming this isn’t your first date. You know his personality and cuisine preferences, and you have a general sense of how much he’s willing to spend at a restaurant. All you have to do now is ask what he’s in the mood for. However, if this is your first date with a POT, look back on your chats and his profile to get a sense of what he might like and then go from there.
One foolproof strategy is to find a place that 100% matches his taste and preferences. If he’s outgoing and always up to speed on the latest trends, then that hot new restaurant everyone’s trying to get a table at would be perfect. Another great strategy is to find a place that checks all the necessary boxes, but pushes him to go outside his comfort zone in other areas. For example, if he’s an out-of-town Daddy who’s only taken you to restaurants close to where he stays, try suggesting a place that he would love but is in a different part of town. The new experience will set the stage for an unforgettable evening.
The wonderful thing about modern technology is that there are so many resources to help narrow down your options. While a Google search can lead to promising results, I don’t recommend relying on Google or Yelp reviews themselves. Instead, check out the local newspaper’s recommendations. It’s also a good idea to get familiar with different ratings sources—be it Zagat, Eater, or Thrillist, or the big league ratings such as the Michelin star system, James Beard award winners, etc. And don’t forget about social media—take notes when your favorite celebrity raves about a new restaurant!
Speaking of notes, I definitely recommend keeping a “Wish List” of restaurants you’d like to check out. Trust me, this list will be a lifesaver if you’re ever put on the spot to pick a place.
Now that you’ve done your research, there are a couple things to keep in mind as you propose the restaurant. It’s definitely a great idea to present some options so daddy can pick his favorite, and so there’s backup in case things aren’t up to par. Don’t worry if that happens—learning what works for the two of you takes practice!
Along those lines, choose places that are in line with Daddy’s discretion preferences. Don’t pick high-profile restaurants if he’s married, and try to request a discrete table where the two of you won’t feel like you’re on display.
If this is your first date with a POT, take the opportunity to test the waters. Present him with a couple options that range from fine dining to hot new restaurants to places that are nice, but a bit more under the radar. Doing this accomplishes two things—you send him a key signal about your taste level, while his choice of restaurant speaks to his lifestyle and budget preferences.
After that, you’re on your own! Enjoy the food and have a great date. Happy Sugaring!