There are pros and cons to everything in life, including sharing your Sugar Daddy with other Sugar Babies. On the one hand, it can be a blessing because it means that the focus isn’t all on you. You may be free to pursue other interests in your life. On the other, it can pose a challenge because you may be competing with other women for his affection. If your goal is to stay one step ahead of the game make sure that you are front and center. The difference between being one of many and being the one is achievable once you learn how to stand out with your Sugar Daddy.
Sugaring is a give-and-take relationship. Monitor yourself to ensure that you are being a good communicator. You want to be a fine storyteller but also a good listener. Most people enjoy being the center of attention so you may want to follow the “80/20 rule.” This means that your SD talks 80 percent of the time, and you talk 20 percent of the time.
Many men enjoy having a captive audience. However if you feel that your SD truly wants to hear your thoughts then try to stay positive. It can be a real buzz kill to listen to someone harp about daily stresses or societal ills. Being charming and upbeat can put you at a real advantage compared to your counterparts.
And please don’t fret about finding topics to converse about. You will find that having a vague knowledge of world events and human interest stories can provide good fodder. It does help, though, to share common interests. For example, if your SD is a cigar aficionado, simple Google the term and ask some well-worded questions. Bonding over mutual fascinations does a lot to strengthen a relationship.
The most important thing to do looks-wise when meeting with your daddy is to be comfortable in your own skin. How you do that is up to you. If you love being in a LBD, then by all means wear them to your heart’s content. If you are most at ease in a casual number, then dress down and let your inner personality shine through.
However, if you are a style chameleon, then it’s best to fashion yourself in a way that stands out from your SD’s other SBs. If you get the sense that they are donned in body-con dresses, then try something different and wear a flowing, flirty dress. If they opt for plunging necklines, then be covered up on top and flaunt some leg. And if they are slaves to fashion, then commit yourself to being classically elegant. The key is to offer something different – not to be one in the same.
There are only so many dates that a SD can go on before feeling the sensation of “been there, done that.” So, it’s wise to make your dates memorable. While being a good conversationalist and listener are essential, it’s smart to take a break from the usual cocktails and dinner, or dinner and dancing. Try going on a date that gives your SD an experience. It can be as simple as trying the cuisine at an Ethiopian restaurant that requires you to eat with your hands. Or try something as complex as a beer-making seminar. Doing something off the beaten path will poise you to be memorable.
It’s up to you and your Daddy to determine how often to communicate with each other. Your Daddy may want daily communication. He may also believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Either way it’s essential that your communication with him stand out from your competitors. Most SBs inundate their SDs with texts like, “Thinking of you,” e-mails including supposedly funny memes, or X-rated pics. As such, you need to make sure that you do something in contrast.
If the other SBs are sharing nude photos, then send a shot of one part of your body with the notion that less is more. If your competition is sending dopey chain e-mails, then set yourself apart by e-mailing your SD a news article that he may be interested in. And never underestimate the power of a handwritten letter. This is a dying art, and will be most appreciated whether it is a “thank you” note for an evening out or a simple greeting card.