On SeekingArrangement you will hear a lot of people using the term “discretion.” This is because there are a lot of people who do not want their private life to be known to their friends, family, and colleagues. I have heard of someone who happened to encounter a Sugar Baby who worked for him accidentally!
As a Sugar Baby, you also should keep your life private and make sure you don’t leak too much personal information about yourself to people on the Internet, especially to people you haven’t formed a safe and trusting arrangement with. It’s fine to tell your close friends if you do get into an arrangement, but going around telling everybody you meet about what you’re doing isn’t a good idea. Aways exercise Sugar Baby safety and discretion.
You also want to make sure to not be giving out personal details before you’ve met in person. Making a Sugar Baby email can be great for this, especially if your actual email contains your real name or other personal info. If you’re really serious about this and have started making money, having a second phone number is also a great idea. You can often find out about people by googling their name or phone number.
On the flip-side, If you want to do a little research about a Sugar Daddy, this may help you find out more about them prior to meeting. Be careful what info you give out! A lot of people on this site use apps to message one another. This is a great way to keep in contact and chat without giving out your email or phone number, there is a popular app called ‘kik’ where you can do this. Never give out social media info such as Facebook or Instagram. Once you meet and trust him, you can reveal more information.
Creating an alter ego is a great way to enhance your personality and to give a Sugar Daddy the type of girl they are looking for, all while keeping your identity private. You don’t have to do this, but if you’re concerned then it’s a great way to put yourself at ease. Start by creating a name to go by, along with a story behind who you are and what you do for a living. Don’t give out where you work or what university you go to.
If you’re a university student looking for a SD to help cover tuition, instead of saying what course and school you actually go to, you could provide him with more general or limited details, like the part of town. Keeping specifics like these hidden can help keep your personal life private, and allow you to open up more when you’ve formed trust.
Lastly, safety is always important. Read people’s messages carefully, make sure they are clear about what they want and discuss with you what they hope to get out of an arrangement. Follow your instinct and if someone is giving you a bad feeling, get out of there. Don’t reply or block people who send you messages you are not okay with.
When meeting with someone, always meet in a public place. Bring along with you some sort of protection, such as pepper spray, best kept in your pocket of an easy to reach part of your handbag. If you are drinking, make sure you do not leave your glass unattended when you go to the bathroom and go with him to watch the bartender pour the drink. There are some more Sugar Safety Tips in this blog.
You don’t need to be afraid of the Sugar Bowl, but you do need to exercise caution, no matter where you meet someone.