Ten Most Common New Sugar Baby Questions

By Danielle

Apr 21, 2018
As a frequent forum visitor and a veteran Sugar Baby, I hear a lot of the same questions over and over. Here are ten of the most common questions I hear along with the answers you’ve been looking for!

I still haven’t found a Sugar Daddy! What am I doing wrong?

It takes a long time to find a Sugar Daddy. You have to weed through scammers, Salt Daddies, and guys you just don’t have a connection with before you find the right one for you. It’s not easy. For most people, it takes several months, but it can take up to a year or even longer.

Is my profile holding me back?

Head on over to the forums, where plenty of Sugar Daddies are willing to take the time and give you some pointers on what you could improve. However, there are some general guidelines you should follow. Show, don’t tell. Avoid clichés. Tell your reader how you can add to his life, rather than listing what you want out of the arrangement. In terms of photos, you should have at least: one close-up, one full body photo, and one photo of you in evening wear. Smile in your photos (especially your profile photo) and avoid selfies or filters.

Is this a scam?

 If you have to ask…then probably yes! But some general rules of thumb: no real Sugar Daddy will give you an allowance before meeting and no real Sugar Daddy will ask for your personal or financial information.

Will someone be my mentor?

There are 1000s of wannabe Sugar Babies for each one veteran Sugar Baby. So no, I’m sorry, but there’s tons of information available on the forums. If you’re unable to do this research on your own then you’re not going to be successful in the bowl. And if you do have a specific question that you can’t find an answer to, simply ask on the forums.

How can I find a platonic relationship?

Simply put, it is a one in a million chance. Finding a legitimate Sugar Daddy is hard but finding a platonic one is even harder. It is not impossible but it may add more months (or years) to your search. The Tumblr blogs you’re probably reading are filled with lies and exaggerations. Men look for a Sugar Baby in order to have a romantic relationship with a younger woman without the commitment. And most relationships are incomplete without sex.

How about an “online-only” relationship?

While platonic relationships are rare, online-only are non-existent. Any “Sugar Daddy” who proposes this is trying to scam you into giving him your information so he can “pay” you. Think about it, why would a man gift you just to talk to him…and online at that?! There are so many Sugar Babies willing to have a regular arrangement that it just wouldn’t make sense. I should also note that this is completely against the rules of Seeking Arrangement.

How do I find a Sugar Mama?

While they exist, they are rare unicorns, for sure! You have to remember that it’s much easier for women to find men (young or old) who will date them, so they’re less likely to look online. Additionally, most just can’t afford it. As much as times have changed, women still have lower salaries than men. There’s many scammer “Sugar Mamas” out there and most of them aren’t even women at all! Your best bet? Go out into the real world and look for a Sugar Mama at upscale bars.

When/how should I get my allowance?

In cash, before any intimacy occurs. The forums are filled with sad stories of Sugar Babies who got tricked into sex before the arrangement and allowance were established, only to never see the man again.

When should allowance be brought up?

In my opinion, as soon as possible after you’ve met in person. You want to make sure you’re on the same page. If he doesn’t bring it up, you should. If he tries to get out of talking about it or says it makes him uncomfortable, then he’s not a real Sugar Daddy and he’s trying to use you. This is an arrangement and all parties understand going in that there is a financial aspect. Do not feel bad about asking for it.

Is this amount ok to ask for?

It’s completely up to you. It can’t be too high or too low on the most basic level because it should be whatever makes you happy. If the Sugar Daddy is not okay with it then he’s not the one for you. Maybe you want less and you prefer gifts and traveling to a high allowance. Or maybe you require more due to living in an expensive area. Only you can make this decision.


Do you have any additions to the answers? Let us know in the comments below!