Your Profile Matters More Than Your Photos

By Steve USA

Apr 28, 2019

As an experienced and successful SD, I’ve seen and read hundreds of SB profiles over several years. I can tell you that a well written and thorough description really makes a difference.

I sense that many SB’s just rely on their sexy photo to catch the attention of prospective or potential SD’s (aka POT) and while that might work to catch his eye, what you put into your profile will be critical in making yourself stand out from the rest. It is also a great place to qualify and filter out the salt and browsers who will know you mean business and are less likely to waste your time.

Here’s what I look for in an SB profile.

The “About Me” Section

First, substance and thought. A single line such as “just looking for a good time with a generous daddy” tells me nothing other than you have low standards and are probably not very interesting.

Second, always be positive and confident. Stay upbeat.

You may be broke, you may have been in a bad relationship, you might feel like the deck is stacked against you but don’t use your profile to complain about life. That’s a major turn off and while there may be guys looking to rescue you, I think they are few and far between. If anything, it will attract scammers who want to take advantage of your desperate plight potentially making a bad situation worse.

A profile shouldn’t be too long but it should at least provide some insight on who you are and what’s important to you. Do you like to read? Great mention a favorite author. Movies, music, sports, pets, your major, your job give a little flavor to help me know you and start a conversation.

Keep it appropriate but use your profile to flirt a bit and build curiosity with SD’s. A couple of well-written paragraphs describing yourself will serve you well.

Here are a couple of excerpts from actual descriptions that I liked (some specifics deleted in respect of their privacy):

Model, music lover, accessories designer, based in CITY. College educated (B.S. in MAJOR), open-minded. Originally from CITY but I’ve spent my whole adult life in CITY. Well-traveled and cultured; I speak X languages and have been to more countries than years I’ve been on Earth. I love a good meal, stimulating conversation, and everything that comes after and in between.

Here’s another:

I’m an old soul with a youthful fit & sexy body, adventurous as they come and turn heads when I’m out on the town ?. I am used to affluent men that know how to treat a lady and gladly treat a man as if he were King. Words that have been used to describe me: loving, honest, kind, caring, athletic (MVP distance runner/Athlete of the Year in college), sapiosexual, playful, hedonistic, sensual, part nerd, a voracious reader, live to eat, passionate, compassionate, emotionally intelligent, easy going, sex siren with the right man. Open communication is of utmost importance, as it enhances relations and builds trust. Genuinely real and very happy!

One more:

5’0” with a big personality University of XYZ alumna Smarter than the average Bubbly, funny, smart, mature, classy Interests: red wine, fine dining, shopping, couples massages, live theater, comedy, travel Obsessed with film Spoil me and I’ll spoil you Not easily impressed. Show me how you can raise the bar. In return, I’ll be caring, loyal, attentive, affectionate, and drama-free.

The “Seeking: Section:

Only about 50% of SB’s complete this section and that’s a shame because it is as valuable as your description as far as I am concerned.

Do you have specific things you are seeking or perhaps want to avoid? State them in your description. It a great qualifier and will help you filter out people early that are not going to be a good match.

If you have certain things that you find particularly attractive and a turn on – mention them. Do you have hard set boundaries or tastes? State them. Are your open-minded and open to different arrangements – let us SD’s know. I always appreciate an SB that ends with a friendly invitation just to message to her and start a conversation.

Here are some examples of concise and well done Seeking Section:

Looking for a discreet, mutually beneficial arrangement with someone respectful, fun and open– preferably someone with prior SD experience and knows what to expect. I’m very respectful of people’s time and schedules… please be the same!

Here’s another:

Looking for depth and connection. Would love to share our life stories! I am easy to connect, resonate with :). I seek out a discreet generous gentleman in the world that can handle a discreet mutually beneficial arrangement/relationship. I want a man that will respect me in the world and treat me like a lady…yet in the bedroom…well you know what I mean ;). I love being spoiled and pampered and taken care of when we both have the time. When that happens I am all about being the woman of your dreams. Message me and let’s see if we have enough connection to go out for a drink 🙂

And one more:

I am looking for an intelligent and successful gentleman who has a great attitude and a sense of humor. If you can make me laugh, take care of me, and treat me with respect, I promise that you will always have my full attention. I am open to both discrete and non-discrete arrangements. Better connections are made when we both first meet in a public space so that we can enjoy each other’s company and relax without any fears of being scammed or harmed. If you’re unable to have a phone conversation prior to the meeting or if you refuse to meet in a public place, then I’m not the sugar baby for you!

All of these examples are well written, clear upbeat and even flirty. And all of them received a response and conversation from me.

Like most things in life, you get out what you put in. So, put in a little more time and thought into your SA profile for the best chance to land the SD and arrangement of your dreams! Good luck!