Why Sugar Babies Are Feminists

By Kaye

Aug 24, 2016

Feminists are not victims. We decide our own destiny, we forge our own paths, and we do not let things happen to us – we make things happen. We fight to get a seat at the table. These are also intrinsic beliefs of a Sugar Baby.

Contrary to the mainstream misrepresentation of Sugar Babies and the lifestyle, these men and women (representing every age, race, creed, sexual orientation and economic status) embody feminism. Here’s why:

They Choose To Take Control

Sugar Babies are not interested in handouts or freebies. These are goal-driven women seeking mentorship and guidance as they pursue educations and careers. Sugar Babies are actively choosing to elevate their lifestyle and create opportunities.

By understanding they may not currently have the financial needs, or business acumen needed to take the next step, they know where to find it. By seeking out benefactors and mentors, Sugar Babies are taking control of their lives and forging onward despite their current circumstances.

They Have Equal Expectations

Sugar Babies are leveling the playing field between genders. Society wholeheartedly accepts when men expect their partner to be x,y, and z, and are lauded for looking past face value. Whereas non-feminists think women who are as vocal or particular are either “gold digger,” “founder hounders,” etc. SBs have the same expectations when it comes to searching and selecting a partner. This partner must fit the Sugar Babies’ determined criteria, and settling for less is not an option.

They Know Their Value

Dating is no longer a gamble or waste of time. Sugar Babies rarely humor a man or woman who does not fit their exact emotional, physical or financial needs. While compromising is not a flaw or a sign of weakness, these women rarely budge on certain aspects of their life. Sugar Babies have an end game and if you’re not helping her get there, she has no time for you.

They Believe in Women

Sugar Babies belong to a growing, vocal community. While they may be members of a niche, subculture, these women do not view each other as competition. Dubbing themselves ‘Sugar Sisters’, new and veteran Sugar Babies interact regularly in forums by offering tips, advice and anecdotes. Because the lifestyle can sometimes be viewed unfairly by society, these women choose to stand together by elevating one another.

Comments

Downtown LA SD Aug 25, 2016 at 9:58 am -

Interesting perspective. I’ve encountered many SBs whose goals were to gain guidance and “boyfriend benefits” without having to have a boyfriend. But just as often I’ve met SBs who were playing the hustle, working their man/men as hard as they could to get as much as they could for as little effort as possible. The “findom” side of Sugar, as it were.

Kaye Aug 25, 2016 at 10:03 am -

I would consider those SBs to be a poor representation of the community. There’s a clear distinction between trying to gain knowledge and flat out using someone. SDs are not a source of free income – disappointing to hear when it happens!

letsdothis69 Sep 30, 2016 at 8:46 pm -

This is a real stretch. SBs are feminists? We are only with a SD for the money. An SD knows this and is willing to pay for intimacy and connection with a younger woman. In rare cases I have thought I would be with an SD even if he wasn’t providing financial rewards because we get along so well. But in the end, we’re here for the financial advantage. No different to a high class escort. The power balance is heavily in favour of the male – just as it is in society.
You want to prove your feminist credentials? Stop sugaring and do something that counters this power balance.

Kaye Oct 01, 2016 at 5:04 pm -

Interesting response Michelle. Gold Diggers are only with men for money. If you are sleeping with men in exchange for money, you are an escort, which is illegal.

letsdothis69 Oct 02, 2016 at 3:50 pm -

Kaye – are you suggesting SBs are not sleeping with men for money? 90% of SDs want intimacy in return for their financial reward and 90% of SBs wouldn’t be intimate with an SB without financial reward. There’s no escaping the transactional basis of SA. It’s essentially another form of escorting – comparable to the high class escorts that wealthy men will pay to be exclusive, fly them around the world, look after them in other ways. It’s a relationship just as a SB/SD is – but it’s still predicated on the sex/money arrangement. It is what it is and it’s not helpful to SBs to delude ourselves it is somehow not sex for money.

Kaye Oct 02, 2016 at 4:13 pm -

I work for the site. But I appreciate you trying to educate me in the lifestyle. If you are sleeping with people in exchange for money, you are a prostitute. Which sounds like you are.

If you are sleeping with someone you have a relationship with, that’s just part of dating.

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