So when a SD ask me what I’m looking for in an arrangement, this is what I’m typically looking for. I know $200 may be too much for the SD in my general area so I figured if he says it might be out of price range, we can negotiate something a little lower between $130 to $200. Unless am I asking for too much when I want both nice activities and allowance since doing nice dates cost as well. Should I just ask for one or the other? I do know what I’m looking for but is it too much to ask for?
Yes, would $200 every meeting be okay? But firstly I am looking for someone I can share my time with if we have great chemistry, going on small trips or nice dinners, spending a weekend with someone I can enjoy their company, having them understand I am VERY diligent in my STEM studies(courses), gifts and shopping are appreciated but I rather my allowance go to practical uses like bills and my tuition. I don’t want this to be some kind of escort arrangement or something you can find off of tinder, I would want this to be a genuine Sugar arrangement.
Hey there love!
We can’t tell you what is too much or too little, unless you are being completely unrealistic and want a extremely high allowance. You have to decide what allowance is best for you. $200/meet is very reasonable. If an SD can’t afford that then he probably shouldn’t be an SD. I would choose an amount and not lower it just because the guy can’t afford to gift you that much.
If you feel $200 is right for you, then it is right. But also I don’t want you to sell yourself short. It all comes down to how often you meet, how the expenses in your area are, and what makes you feel valued.
I feel $200 is too low, but also my cost of living might be higher than yours. How often do you plan on meeting? If it is scarce, like once a month, then I say you are asking too little.
But again, if you feel $200 will cover everything you need it to, then go for it. Your standards will rise the longer you are in the bowl, and it may take a second to truly find what amount is best for you.
Let him lead the discussion of money. When asked how much money I’m wanting, I usually say something like, “However much you feel you can spend on me, I don’t want you to feel like an ATM, but I also hope you take into consideration that I have tuition to pay.” It usually leads to them offering more money than I would have asked for.
I am actually currently with a SD but he can only pay me $100 per meeting and that is not nearly enough to help me. the price is way too low for me so that is why i am still searching but keeping him for the time being until I can find a SD who can pay a larger amount for my expenses. I had also recently found out he is going through a divorce so it could be a reason why he can’t pay more than $100. Typically I can meet at least once or twice a week, but it is usually just once a week unless I have a large amount of time off of school duties aka spring break then I can spend a whole weekend with a SD.
I’m going to disagree here. Yes, theoretically, whatever you’re comfortable with is fine as an allowance, but I hate when girls accept such low allowances. It just makes men who really can’t afford to be SDs continue to try and find SBs who will stoop to their level- making it that much harder for those of us with more traditional sugar expectations.
I don’t know where you’re located, but I say $300 anywhere is the lowest you should go. $100 and he’s flat out taking advantage of you. Hell, I could afford $100 a meet and I’m an SB. Most likely, he can afford more than that and he’s just being cheap.
Here’s another reality: if he can only afford such a low amount, why does he have to see you so often? Answer: again he’s taking advantage. A gentleman would realize that’s very low for his end of the arrangement and would increase the allowance per date by decreasing the amount of dates.
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