Do you feel like it is harder to get a Sugar Daddy as an Ethnic Baby? Why do you think Ethnic Babies seem to be less popular than others and what do you think we can do about it?
yes, i’ve realized for me it is 1000x harder to get a sugar daddy. I’ve gotten a lot of fetish daddy offers who were into “slavery role play” but an actual sd/sb relationship, I have not gotten any offers.
I’m a Black SB. I’ve had a few Splenda daddies (nice dates and a few gifts, but no significant money), but no one I would consider to be a real SD. I’m about to amp up my activity, since warmer weather tends to put me in my “element” and I find it easier to attract men when I’m in my groove.
The bowl is challenging for ethnic SBs, even for the prettiest, refined and intelligent ones (all around 9s and 10s). It’s a very nuanced issue that I won’t go into on this forum, but there are stereotypes associated with skin tone, and those stereotypes can work for (or against) you, depending on who you are. An ethnic SB can have the best written profile, classiest photos and perfect messages to POTs, it still won’t yield the same amount of contact and first dates as other Babies may get because of the damaging perceptions associated with women that look like her. It’s unfortunate, and SDs on websites will often believe what they’ve always been told about a group of women, for better or worse. This isn’t all of them, of course. But, your time in the bowl is frustrating if most of the men that are looking for SBs have already decided that you aren’t what they want, without ever reading your profile.
After saying all those negatives (LOL!), I don’t want anyone reading to be disheartened. My suggestion is to accept the fact that most SDs aren’t checking for us, and that’s okay. There are more than enough REAL SDs for any ethnic SB that wants them, we just have to be smart about our search. Also remember: just because they are on SA doesn’t mean that they are authentic and high quality. ALL sugar dating websites have a ton of SALT daddies. The goal is always to find someone quality: thankfully, quantity =/= quality. It’s better to have one or two great SDs come across our path than to have 30 Salt daddies in our inboxes.
Just because the online bowl isn’t always kind, doesn’t mean that there isn’t a good chance that you can find a real, authentic SD. Your plan for finding him has to include online profiles as well as freestyling. What I’m finding is that freestyling yields better results for me, and I think it’s a stronger option for most ethnic SBs. Also, being open to men of all races, as well as living close to (or regularly visiting) a larger metropolitan area helps a great deal. Use online dating as a way to supplement your strong freestyling game, because that’s what will probably work best in your hunt for the right SD.
@missydee You have an awesome perspective on the issue! I couldn’t have said it better myself.
@Valenica I can understand how that would feel disappointing. Dealing with Fetish Daddies can be difficult. I will be gathering more tips and tricks for Ethnic Babies and posting about them soon.
To all brown sugar babies, it takes us more time but we all know we are worth it so stay patient.
It’s important to put in the time searching the right profiles to send emails. If I send out 20 emails, I’ll be lucky to receive 1 response. I find most of the real interest that leads to dates come from International SD visiting my area on business. Just a word of caution to brown sugar, make sure these POTS are looking for dates only and not an escort, then all is good.
Locally, it’s been hard finding a real POT but I’ve only been on 2 months and am being patient. Good things come to those who wait.
@blkcwgrrl You have an excellent perspective. Patience is key for everyone seeking a legitimate SD.
In London I am aware of East Asian, Indian, and Africa SBs. I haven’t spoken to them about their experience in terms of their background but from chatting to some of my clients they have said they like the variety. I know for some of the Asian SBs they have to be careful about being “discovered”.
Since signing on to the site I have had literally a May/December arrangement with a guy who was in the city I currently reside in training individuals for a corporation he works for and it was great! I believe the reason many of us are having difficulty in finding a SD is regarding what the men who sign up for the site are looking for. Just as any traditional dating site a majority of those who use online dating as men are normally White middle aged men. With SA being a non-traditional dating site that offers men and women the option to pay for companionship I looked at the idea as, “If I was a man seeking a woman what would I be looking for?” A lot of these men tend to go for the young college aged girls around the ages of 18-21 which pretty much knocks a lot of us out of the pool, then its the height, and of course race requirements. Again, as I stated the site is mainly made up of white men who typically have never dated outside of their race, its not to say, “oh I think black girls act a certain type of way” its more so not having had interest in us. But there are many who do. I stress to girls all the time to never settle for less than what you expect! If you are looking for a practical lifestyle then let he/she know this. I’ve been contacted by a buttload of men from the site who think that I’m not worth my asking, and I beg to differ! Also feeling the need to show revealing photos is not the best way to go. Never jeopardize your respect for self by no man! And there are a lot white SB that don’t hold a candle to us on the site and Ive been told that a dozen! There are also a lot of white SB’s who are having similar troubles with finding a sincere long-term SD, yes the pool for them is larger, but it hasn’t slowed down my game:)
@colourmesugar That is super helpful advice. Just as many of us may have not had experience with men outside of our race we have to understand the same might be true for the men and have to be patient. If you are interested send a message the worst that can happen is they don’t respond. I like your attitude when it comes to respecting your self and your worth. Thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you for all the good tips, i have been SA for quite sometime now, and i havent had any good luck yet and when i do and want a arrangement, the POTs tend to find me too expensive, which is ridiculous because i know Caucasian ladies ask twice a much , this annoyingly based on stereotyping of black ladies, i believe it would be easier if there was a site dedicated to ethnic ladies , or parties that are luxury form
yes its hard work, but not giving up
How do you freestyle? How are you sure you’re catching an sd while you’re out freestyling? Certain places you go or something?
ITs harder for me, I am in the south. Imagine how hard it is for a brown sugar baby in Houston smh. so sad. But not giving up hope.
I’m from Ethiopia, and while I haven’t had a serious inquiry. I am becoming very disheartened. I am beautiful but a lot of profiles I come across say not interested in African Americans. Even though I am not African American. It still makes me not reach out considering I am still black.
YES! They are welcomed! I’m an African American SB with brown skin! I’ve had a LOT of success on this site and others. I’m from California but I live in the south so I thought my chances of finding an SD would be difficult competing with young blondes! Total opposite. I’m a very beautiful woman so men of all ethic backgrounds take interest but most of the men contacting me are white. I’m currently in a great SB/SD relationship at the moment. Allowance $1500 a month plus gifts. Honestly it’s your gift of gab and how you make a man feel. My profile pulls them in. Men want to help women that help themselves. One SD told me he has no problem helping an SB out but if this is her whole life he’s turned off. So have an interesting life if you don’t make one up! A lot of men are interested in the unknown. I’m the first African American woman my current SD has been with and he can’t get enough of me. Be patient and stand out! Your profile has to be very engaging with awesome pictures. How I built traffic to my profile is by searching for men myself then hitting favorite on their profile. This is a subtle way to see if he’s interested in an ethnic SB. If he starts a conversation the ball is now rolling!
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