Very late to this party but yes, women of all types have a chance in the bowl. This is a smaller subset of the dating population but don’t let it bother you.True, many guys here are looking for a dreamgirl of their own ethnicity but…there are a fair number who have a dream in different color and/or shape.
It isn’t about ‘working harder’, it is about defying stereotypes. Especially since this site is in the mainstream news, many young women appear and assume smiling prettily is enough. No. Just like you have expectations to be met, so do the men on site.
What you bring to the table is your charm, enthusiasm, grace, polish and intelligence. Will that mean you have to smooth down parts of you in public? Probably.Most men you are looking for, particularly the older crew, aren’t looking for a party girl or a social justice warrior.
Taking it personally (the no AA, ethnic girls,etc) will only weigh you down. So refuse to be so. The guy you eventually strike up a delicious deal with wants the best open-hearted you, as you want from him, in return.
I won’t say ‘good luck’, as Fortuna is fickle but I do offer many good wishes.
I think it may be a bit harder ON THIS PARTICULAR SITE but other sites I have had no issues. I think everyone has their preference and thats cool. Ive gotten a few racist messages that shocked me though. Then again, idk why I was shocked. lol
Thank you, @ Maestro Ambrose! *smile*
Pink, this site is a particular nut to crack and I’m not surprised at the lack of civility. I’m sorry you had to deal with nasty messages.
One, we are dealing with an issue close to most hearts-money. The gloves come off, so to speak, because some guys feel they are the one paying, so should get what they want. Can cause a snappy and impatient response. Next, as we are (hopefully) dealing with successful and HNW individuals, they aren’t always the most tactful. A shark in the boardroom doesn’t become a guppy just because a pretty woman appears. Blunt and ruthless men aren’t always polished in relation to their dates. And finally, bad and putrid manners are a lot more common in our society than should be, sadly.
Other sites attract a wide variety of men; this one pulls in more of the same ‘type’.
Good wishes for good things to come!
Very true @Diotima… the advice you ladies have given has been quite helpful. I also noticed, after speaking with some other SB’s that it isn’t just the ethnic women that are having a hard time. The market is just down a bit lol. I ended up signing up for 4 different SB sites. Waiting around on responses from one site can take forever. Collectively though, all of the sites seem to reap more results. I have even seen SDs from this site, on other sites.
Another thing I would like to point out, many of them are looking for one nighters in their area. I spoke with a couple of guys on the site asking what they thought of my profile.Their responses were along the lines of “it sounds so good and you look great but I’m looking for something quick and close by.” My profile clearly states that isn’t what I want. So that may have something to do with the lack of responses many of us may have been getting.
@royaldiva2315, thank you for giving insight on your experience and I was hoping you wouldn’t mind sharing a couple of tips to us Ethnic SB’s on things that should and shouldn’t be included in our profiles, especially for content purposes. I know that we are very different from each other but how can I attract and get more SD’s interested and contacting me for serious. I don’t mind including the numerical code for my profile if you don’t mind glancing at it.
@Pink–the influx of guys who think they can get a sexy woman for price of a dinner is unceasing. I doubt it will get better, as guys have decided SA is like any other site.
Some guys want an escort w/o paying market prices, so they come after women here, assuming they can negotiate.
I’m not surprised at you seeing the same guys across multiple sites. They are trying to play the odds, as we are!
I find the site is not for woc most guys just wanna play games with us. If there’s any group on kik or WhatsApp for woc add me alexis_xoxo90. I’m from the Caribbean
Hey! Can someone give me advice on my profile. I just signed up a few days ago and I’ve gotten a lot of views but no bites. After reading through quite a bit I see this is a common problem but just wanted some help still! 🙂
Your profile here and your SA profile are not linked. So without the your name there (SA) or the alpha-numeric number on your profile we will not be able to see it. Also try posting in Advice about your profile.
As a darkskinned AA, I’ve always had to exude confidence so to speak and it also taught me to have tough skin. I’m confident that there is the perfect match for me but I’d be lying if I said SA hasn’t affected my confidence. What am I doing wrong? Could someone please take a look at my profile and give critique?
“What am I doing wrong”
The date stamp has you joining a week ago, that’s a question you ask after 6 months.
There is a learning curve on SA, this is not Tinder, POF, Bumble, etc. The SB out number the SD 8:1 and as high as 14:1.
It can take easily 6 months to a year to find a good SD. Keep in mind that you, the SB, are the hunter so your profile and messages have to be on point.
As for your profile, your pictures are good, you have good close up and full body pictures.
Your narrative needs work and comes across more geared towards a regular dating site.
About me section, take the entire line with your age in it out. Your age is already listed and that line is clutter.
Also delete the last little paragraph of your “about me” section. Once again unnecessary filler especially the part about “don’t be afraid to send me a message”. That’s a line for dating sites not SA.
You need to add to this section the “Why”. Why should a SD choose you over 10,000 other SB in your city. You need to state what you will bring to the table for the SD.
“What I’m looking for”
Take out the “cheap thrill” line, you are going to get the flakes and fakes no matter what you say.
Also remove the very last line, once again unnecessary on this site.
You have the line stating “…genuine companionship”, for the legit SD that will ring of platonic.
If you do not intend to be platonic you need to rewrite that line.
With a rewrite and patience good things will come your way.
Brown Sugar Baby here,
I was wondering if someone could possibly look at my profile and give me some tips on how to make it better. I made note of several posts and changed my profile and even added some private photos. When I first began I had two people interested and then… a drought. Somebody help please & thank you!
Well said & I’m loving the positivity!!
Honestly It wasn’t until I hit the forums here recently that The thought of whether or not Brown Sugar babies do well in the bowl had never crossed my mind. It’s been coming up.
People have preferences (myself included!) & everyone isn’t everyone else’s cup of tea. In fact I can’t even tell you how many SD said they prefer blue eyes & blonde hair because I moved on so quickly- it didn’t even register. I wouldnt say it was many though.
I’ve been fortunate enough not to receive nasty comments or be fetishized. I’m sorry some SB are having to deal with this! But anonymity has a way of bringing out both beautiful or equally ugly traits in people. Try not to internalize it.
Ethnicity is rarely a topic of convo in messages or on my M&G. If it IS mentioned it’s usually a completely complimentary. Mostly white men reach out to me & my inbox is pretty active. In the case that I don’t receive a response to a message I never really bother to ask why. It’s on to the next!
Now I HAVE had one gent who said he prefers tall blondes reach out to me & we chatted but he didn’t make the cut.
I would never think about whether or not a POT likes black women. I always say hello if I’m interested… you never know & it doesn’t hurt.
You ever notice how some men say they want a voluptuous blonde but may end up proudly strutting w a leggy brunette? Ever walk into a store craving one thing & leave w something completely different? Sometimes Pretty, personality, charm & sophistication trumps whatever the hell they walked in the store thinking they wanted. And if it doesn’t then don’t waste your thoughts on em!
These SD are Men! The same men at the St. Regis bar, the same ones @ the members only cigar clubs Or country clubs & many times the same men at your local coffee shops.
Don’t glorify these men & their fantasies. They don’t quantify you.
Cast your net wide, sort your catch & keep fishing ladies.
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