Assuming that many of you have dated significantly older daddies (50+), have any of you had to deal with erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, or your daddy not being able to get very hard when he does have an erection? How do you/did you handle the situation? What’s been your experience?
My current daddy is in his mid-50s and has been very open about having some performance issues. Over the last couple months of my seeing him we’ve become close and I’m very attracted to him. The last time I saw him he made a comment about us having hot, passionate sex, which I’m totally up for! I know he wants to have sex with me and I’m happy to be patient and understanding with him. I’d love to hear how any of you have handled this potentially awkward situation.
How about suggest him to use Viagra?
I’d have to agree with the viagra sentiment. You can always suggest it in a sexy way, like talking about a fantasy you have with him, and if he’s ever considered medication to make it happen. Another option, not to be completely weird, is a sex toy such as a chastity device (check out CB-X). When worn for a day or two it can make the skin down there extremely sensitive, since the area is not able to be touched while in the device. That’s actually something you can get for him, but you’d have to feel him out and make sure it’s something he’s into. Sort of bondage-y, but it is a non-medical and proven way to help ED.
Now that Im over the trauma of reading Brooks chastity device comment, I’m going to give some suggestions.
1. Certain medications can cause ED, High Blood pressure medicine over time can have this effect. If he is on any prescription meds check it out.
Go to WebMD or the Mayo clinic online to check any meds and ask a Urologist.
2. Taking l-citrulline or L-Arginine can help also. They are over the counter supplements. Take 3000mg a day it will help.
3. Losing weight and exercising helps also.
4. The prescription meds, Viagra, Cialis, Stendra all can work.
It might be just a “in his head thing”, have him take a dose of Viagra, that along with a good jack hammering session can put him back on track.
He might not need the viagra after one or two good sessions.
A trip to the urologist is really the best thing he can do.
Hope this helps.
I’ve had more than my share of experience with this! The most important thing is to be nonjudgmental and patient. I’ve never had a partner that didn’t overcum 😜 the problem. Let him know you are willing to work with him on it – he’s worth it. (Pump up that ego). He can still satisfy you in other ways while you figure it out.
The second thing to know is alcohol is the enemy!!! Seriously. He may not want to admit it because when you are younger it’s usually not an issue but it’s fairly universal that it becomes one. He should limit his intake before you are together.
He should talk to his doctor because sometimes there are underlying health issues like diabetes that need to be addressed. In that regard I disagree with jumping straight on the little blue pill train… although god bless that train. He should probably have his testosterone level checked. Low testosterone effects men in so many ways and can be addressed leading to an overall better quality of life. Besides medical intervention there are natural ways to boost testosterone. I had a partner that had a dozen oysters every time before we were together!! It makes a difference- I swear by oysters!!!
Along the lines of what Brook wrote there are cock rings that do the trick for some.
Usually what works is a multifaceted approach. You both need to be committed to overcoming it together & he will appreciate you for being so fabulous understanding about it.
Another thought regarding Viagra…. I had a partner that was struggling with this. I, as others suggested, in a very well meaning way suggested Viagra. It did not go well. Turns out he was already taking it. 😩 It’s such a sensitive subject for men that many don’t want to admit to using any aids. It took awhile for him to admit to me that he had been taking it all along. Yikes! That was rough.
I have sex without penetration with my sd of 79 years and I have seen that.
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