Is this site for escorts and prostitutes? Every guy I chat with want sex since I’m asking for an allowance. It’s a huge turn off for me for a guy to tell me that they want sex. I know all men want sex, duh. Why not just let it happen naturally/ organically? Why not build trust and a connection first? Why not enjoy a couple dates first? I refuse to have sex on the first meet. I’m not a escort.
Im glad I’m not the only one that has that same situation. Every guy either the first message or even the second it quickly turns to a sexual talk. Telling me how big they are, how do I like it, it’s such a turn off, and if they only knew that I apsolutly love sex, and could literally have it everyday, but if they aren’t patient enough to at least wait a few meetings, then they will never get to experience that fact. I’m here for a mutually beneficial partnership, but I’m not an expert or prostitute. If they want a prostitute they can pick up One On Any Corner and most of them charge about a hundred bucks a pop which is about 15 minutes of fun with a high risk of every disease known to man, they come here for a better higher class of relationship, and I certainly don’t mind reminding them of that, and it weeds out the loosers instantly.
I personally don’t entertain any SD who brings up sex on SA (unless it’s looking to be a BDSM arrangement, in which case I need to establish prior to meeting what they’re into)
I think this is where photos can help. Anyone with provocative photos I assume attract these John types, whereas a more classy/conservative photo I feel attracts a higher calibre of men who generally understand there’s a time and place for that discussion.
Also, lets not stigmatise SWs too much, yeah?
Being intimate is implied unless otherwise stated. SD-s should not be crude when messaging, but nobody should be offended by minor hints about sex.
In the vanilla dating world, I completely agree with the above. Men and women are drawn together by ‘chemistry’ and 99% are looking for sex as part of a successful relationship. It doesn’t need to be directly stated. Just go with the flow and see what happens.
SA and the sugar world is somewhat different. 99% of men are still looking for sex and are physically attracted to the women they see here. The percentage of SB that would be dating their SD if no allowance was involved is in the single digits. If they could receive the allowance without getting intimate, most probably would. Which doesn’t mean that many don’t enjoy the time and intimacy with their SDs, but that without the allowance, they would choose other partners.
With the way that SA is going, I don’t think that intimacy is implied with a very large percentage of new SBs. Many state directly on their profiles ‘platonic’, ‘no sex’ or online only, but of the others, I expect a large percentage feel that they can bring in an allowance just for being them. It’s almost getting to the point where I feel I wouldn’t bother contacting a POT SB unless there was something intimacy-positive in her profile ( and I’m not talking about blatant statements, but just some flirty hints ).
So, ‘Why not just let it happen naturally/ organically? Why not build trust and a connection first? Why not enjoy a couple dates first?’. Because, usually the POT SBs are expecting an allowance for those dates. I’d want to know if intimacy is a real possibility after those few dates, or whether she intends this as a purely platonic relationship. Hopefully I can be a bit subtle about the question, but I expect to receive an unambiguous response before the first date or I’m wasting my time. I don’t need to offer an allowance to sit across a table and eat dinner with someone. Maybe it really doesn’t work out after those first dates – I’ll take that risk. But we both need to be clear that we’re looking for the same thing.
No to “will you suck my c*ck?”. Yes to “I’m looking for a normal male/female relationship when we’re together and everything that entails. You?”
Some guys just want to make sure a baby is actually open to it at some point, so it doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to jump into it right away. There are many girls on sugar dating sites who are hoping to get paid large amounts just to spend time with a guy, to be his platonic friend or therapist. Many girls are very vague or sometimes misleading about their intentions and expectations, some are even hoping to lead guys on.
The main thing is communication, clearly state that you’re only looking for something platonic if that’s your intentions, there are some SDs who only want platonic but they’re rare. It’s assumed that arrangements are intimate unless clearly stated otherwise, so don’t get offended if a guy asks if you’d be open to something like that because he may just be trying to find out the end goal. For me personally I’m fine putting in a platonic date or two if a girl needs to feel comfortable or to get to know each other first, but I don’t feel like it’s fair to pay just to get to know someone and I think most SDs are on the same page, so just be upfront.
… ummmm Coffeeeee
Why do you think the SD contacted you in the first place? Because you make a mean lasagna!
There are some arenas where friendships with the same or opposite sex are simply that, and will never be anything else. For friendship, one usually need to pay a monthly allowance to said friend.
THIS … SA ….. IS NOT THAT!!!!
Every guy will want sex and every girl will want money… Lets be real here. You cant hope to talk money with him and him not wanting to talk about sex.
I’m a new SB and new to SA, and I’ve had a lot of what I would characterize as success already. My experience is similar in that POTs bring up sex early in the conversation about arrangements, and I’m okay with that. I’d be shocked if they didn’t. This isn’t Match.com. Intimacy is implied from the get to. I’m willing to provide it for an appropriate show of appreciation. Everything in life is transactional. I’m not a traditionalist, I enjoy intimacy, so why not be appreciated for it?
What do people think sugar babies and sugar daddy’s are about. I am flabbergasted how many people think that platonic is normal!
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