He kept driving the call back to physicality. I realize that’s important, but it just felt a bit overwhelming, and I politely stated as such. My question is this-he wants me to come to meet him in NYC. I am ok financially, but really not up for paying my way. Fair to say, you buy, I’ll fly.
Skip him. He only cares about one thing…and it is not your arrangement. Also, never fly for a meet and greet. He needs to come to you. However, if you really want to go then tell him he needs to take care of the costs. My guess is he probably will not do it.
This reply was modified 8 months ago by teamswirl.
Chances are if you haven’t even met yet and he’s constantly shifting the topic to only physicality on a phone call of all things, he’s likely having a wank while talking to you :/ Him asking some basic preferences is fine but anything excessive just gives off the wrong vibes. And you should never fly for a meet and greet even if he buys the ticket, because you need to give out A LOT of personal identifying information in order for him to do that. This can become a safety or even blackmail risk.
Hi, I recently encountered a similar situation, a man 28 wanted to fly my across the country for the weekend and wanted company and lots of sex for 3000 dollars and I was not sure whether it was safe to accept or not. I am new to being a sugar baby and so this forum has given me the impression that it’s not so I think I’ll refuse that. Do you guys agree that I came to the right conclusion?
I think there are some situations where a long distance sugar relationship can work and be as safe as meeting locally. But a guy offering to fly you across the country for a weekend of lots of sex for $3000 is in no way a sugar relationship. At best, it’s an escort situation. But a very dangerous one if you’re flying to meet someone for the first time. There’s a reason for him wanting to fly someone far from home, and it’s for sure not for your benefit.
Even if you were interested in escort work, you came to the right conclusion.