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  • #101152

    jsidd
    Participant

    So I’m chatting with this potential SB, and she discusses that she’s into just texting, etc or in person meets. I say that I’m looking to have a face to face relationship/arrangement. She then tells me that she’s willing to have a 1/1.5 hour dinner date (mind you this is the first time we will he meeting). She wants a gift, I offer a token amount since it’ll be the first meeting. She counters with slightly under a grand.

    Naive about the process or just hoping to scam?

    #101180
    SFwinefan
    SFwinefan
    Participant

    She is looking for the quick hit of cash.

    A first meet should be a meet and greet for 15 to 30 minutes. No gift expected (but one often provided with no expectation by the POT SD, usually in the small/token range to convert get transportation).

    Anything substantial should be when the relationship is discussed and defined.

    Your first red flag is that she mentioned being just into texting, etc.

    • This reply was modified 2 months, 1 week ago by SFwinefan SFwinefan.
    #101185

    jsidd
    Participant

    Thanks. Definitely felt this was a crazy request; when she defined the dinner as 1/1.5 hours long that sent up a red flag too. The request set off hundreds of red flags, lol.

    I’ve met ladies who didn’t ask for anything on a M&G (which are typically full dinners) and then some who asked for a token for the trip (typically from those in college and it’s understandable request).

    • This reply was modified 2 months ago by  jsidd.
    #101195
    willow6
    willow6
    Participant

    Seriously,Nearly a grand just to meet?Scam or thinks very highly of herself!
    I wouldn’t expect anything for a m+g,only time I imagine the need for it would be if SB had to travel a long way to meet SD but then only expenses.
    I think its nice if a SD does give a gift on m+g,it shows appreciation and a generous nature but I’m talking a box of chocolates or a small amount gift card,not a pandora bracelet or loads of cash and I don’t expect it-afterall if theres no spark you won’t meet again anyway so would be unfair to SD’s.

    #101196

    AFuryforluxury
    Participant

    She’s a Pro.

    #102441

    Cecile
    Participant

    Honestly wow what a scam. The only reason why my first M&G is also a date is because we are both travelling to the same city… I’m much closer as I work in the region but he doesn’t. Im not even asking for any type of gift. But we both agree we will be discussing/negotiating things during supper.

    I hope there are more honest SB/SD out there then the scammers.

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