Home Sugar Support Forum™ Advice I don't know if my description is attactive HELP! *Newbie*

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  • #14725
    MySophie
    MySophie
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    Hi girls! I’m from Colombia. I’ve been starting to get into the world of being a Sugar Baby two months ago. I’ve read a lot of your advices, but I don’t know if my description is attractive enough.
    Can any generous SB read my description via email and give me feedbacks? I want to have a SD suitable for me. Hugs from Bogota, Colombia.

    #14765
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
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    Please take anything I say here with a grain of salt. As I do not know Colombian culture at all. I know some South American culture, but not Colombia at all.

    As a SD I would skip past you. “Let me interview you” is a quick turn off. Most SDs want/need discretion. Between this and asking for professional contacts a SR would be too visible for my taste. Now you networking is your main reason for joining the Bowl, that’s fine. I am sure you’ll fine someone for that.

    Your profile is missing the biggest point:
    WHY. Why should I pick you? What do you bring to the table that will make my life better? These are the things that a SB should convey in her profile. Unlike traditional dating, you (as a SB) are are the hunter. Making the first move is good. Also, try to sell the SDs on why you are better than the next SB. Your profile is fine for match.com/PoF. But in this game, you are the chaser. There are 10-14 SBs for each SD. So we need to know why/how you will make our time together enjoyable.

    #14793

    AJ93
    Participant

    @ambrose
    Good evening. I was wondering if you give advice on profiles regularly. I’ve seen a few posts asking about them that have responses. If you do that and have time, would you be willing to look at mine? I’ve seen a few pointers around the website and have edited it accordingly, but nothing beats real feedback. I appreciate your time if you will and I understand if you won’t. Thank you.

    #14822
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
    Participant

    @AJ93 A quick search on SA didn’t show up your profile. All I have to go on is “AJ93”. LTS doesn’t directly connect to your SA profile so I can’t just click on your profile from here. You can either copy/paste what you have and I’ll look it over, or you can give your profile name on SA.

    #14825

    AJ93
    Participant

    @ambrose
    I’m AdventurousBookworm. Thank you for taking the time to check it out.

    #14827
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
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    Your profile is way to long. Chop out 2/3rds before doing anything else.

    Your profile is missing the biggest point:
    WHY. Why should I pick you? What do you bring to the table that will make my life better? These are the things that a SB should convey in her profile. Unlike traditional dating, you (as a SB) are are the hunter. Making the first move is good. Also, try to sell the SDs on why you are better than the next SB. Your profile is fine for match.com/PoF. But in this game, you are the chaser. There are 10-14 SBs for each SD. So we need to know why/how you will make our time together enjoyable.

    Pictures. Without a full body pic in public pictures, you are going to get skipped.

    Now for the impolite. Just off the photos you show, you are not curvy. The moment a SB is not truthful with her body type, the moment she vastly drops her chances of finding a SD. If you are slim/average/full you need to be honest. If someone is full and puts average they will drive away any SD looking for full. As that SD isn’t going to search curvy while he wants full. At the same time, those SDs that search for curvy are not going to pick a SB who places that as her body type while her pictures show it to not be true. A SB who is dishonest about this will hurt her chances of finding a SD by preventing those that want her from finding her while getting nexted by those not looking for her.

    #14828

    AJ93
    Participant

    @ambrose
    Thank you for looking at it. Is there a particular way I can write out the why? Should I be actively addressing the reader? And no, you were not impolite about my figure. I know I have more than average but truthfully I look like I weigh less in person so I wasn’t sure that I fell under full figure. I appreciate your time and will make adjustments according to your advice. Again, thank you so much. Stay warm!

    #20444
    MySophie
    MySophie
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    @ambrose
    Thank you so much for your advices! I already change a lot of things. If you could check it again I would love that. Hugs

    #20538
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
    Participant

    @MySophie
    Right now your profile is rather bad. The “demands” in the “About Me” section are going to drive almost everyone away.

    Listing what you don’t want is terrible. It will drive away SDs, as they see this as an example of you being high maintenance and full of drama, while the fakes won’t care. I would recommend deleting everything from the “please read carefully” to the end.

    Private pictures are a waste of time and energy. If you have risque photos hidden behind the veil, okay. But if they are just like the ones you have open for the public, it is a bad idea.

    At the moment, your profile is all about you, and what you want. When it needs to be WHY. Why should I pick you? What do you bring to the table that will make my life better? These are the things that a SB should convey in her profile. Unlike traditional dating, you (as a SB) are are the aggressor. Making the first move is good. Also, try to sell the SDs on why you are better than the next SB. In this game, you are the hunter. There are 10-14 SBs for each SD. So we need to know why/how you will make our time together enjoyable.

    Again, I am not well versed in Colombian culture. I’ve spent time in Argentina/Chile/Paraguay. So I could be wrong completely. But my above statements are true for that trio of nations as well as most of the western world.

    #20588

    QueenKLynn
    Participant

    @Ambrose I was wondering if you would mind taking a look at my profile as well? I am currently looking for a full body picture now to put up, I may have to take one later today. Thank you in advance if you get the chance to look at it!

    #20633
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
    Participant

    @QueenKLynn

    1: S/N
    “Queen” “princess” “goddess” ect. are all terrible words to use. Let alone as a profile name. They all bring forth the idea of drama and high maintenance.

    2: Photos
    Your are really grainy. Spend some time and take better ones. If you don’t have a great camera on your phone ask a friend. Pictures are the number one asset a SB has on her profile. They are the first thing we see, and a majority of our browsing never opens a profile. It’s just the lead picture. If it doesn’t strike us, we pass. Your two are low energy as well. I would recommend replacing both.

    3: Profile text
    Over all it’s not too bad. But there are a few bad spots.
    I have big dreams for my life, that I will make a reality one way or another. I do know what I want. I generally get what I want.” I would drop you right here. “generally get what I want” Nope. I’m out. This screams of drama and a “me first” attitude. Both things that will sink you in the Bowl.

    “But who also takes things seriously. Someone respectable, generous, kind. But above all honest.” Saying you need someone “honest” or “kind” doesn’t help you at all. In fact, it shows negativity towards men/relationships. Telling use that dishonest and unkind men are something you attract. So the honest and kind SDs will skip by you. While the dishonest and unkind men will be even more attracted to your profile. As you are stating that you have a history with that kind of man. So you shoot yourself in the foot twice.

    #20635
    lonesurvivor
    lonesurvivor
    Participant

    @ambrose, Can you please take a look at mine as well please? I have been getting views but the messages have reduced. Also what do you think about the attract boast? Is it worth it?

    #20638
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
    Participant

    @lonesurvivor
    LTS does not link your profile with your SA profile. So I will need either your S/N or your alpha-numeric code (the part that comes after “member/xxxxxxx”. Where the x’s are.

    Attract boost is a waste. Don’t bother with it at all.

    #20639
    lonesurvivor
    lonesurvivor
    Participant

    oh sorry. Username is Atl__SB (two underscores in between)

    #20642
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
    Participant

    @lonesurvivor

    1: Photos
    Don’t use any that cut your face off, or cover it up. I get that you want some level of anonymity, but you have a picture that shows your face as well as one that kind of shows your face. Either go all out by clearly showing your face, or hide it completely. I recommend showing it. A pretty face is a SB’s greatest strength. Your clear face picture, well the stance doesn’t do you justice. Your body looks fine in it, but it adds something to the look of your face that doesn’t show how pretty you are very well (the head tilt). Add a smile or two as well. As far as having private pictures, see my comments to @MySophie above.

    2: “Beauty and brains”
    “Beauty and brains” is not a good look. You are pretty, so there is no need to state it. Makes you seem either arrogant or insecure. If you are smart, show it. Don’t tell it. Calling yourself intelligent is a bad look. The men reading your profile are 15+ years your senior. They have spent that 15+ years building their personal fortune to be able to Sugar. So what do you believe they think of a young woman calling herself smart? If you looked back at yourself 4-6 years ago, would you call that version of you smart compared to your version today? Most likely not. So show us how you wish to expand your mind. Do you like art or history? Does going to a seminar on personal finance or genetics rock your boat? Things of this nature.

    3: “Attraction/chemistry is key. If we hit it off here, I would like to meet rather quickly to see if it translate in real life.
    We know chemistry is key. But stating it makes it come across as you requiring a few platonic dates. Big turn off for SDs. Instead, something along the lines of “can’t wait to see if we have chemistry” is a better way to say it. I am a huge fan of SBs who want to meet rather quickly. It helps to weed out the tire kickers. But don’t come across as too eager. Any SD who has spent time on SA will have seen the trend that escorts push to meet now. So that gives some of us a pause, those of us not looking for that style of SR. Instead try “I would love to get coffee with you soon”. This shows the desire for a M&G, and escorts try to skip that as they are basing the whole experience on a per/hour rate. And this still shows an eagerness that SDs will love.

    Over all a solid profile. Think about those few changes, and switch up your profile pictures and your profile will be great.

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