Ugh i started talking to a successful 54 yo doctor with his own business. He offered 1000 a week, and was sweet and kind. I met him at his giant house, he gave me an envelope with 1000 bucks, slept together but I was downright repulsed. It was… gross. I felt disgusting and left right away. He was so sweet and excited and was talking about all the things we’d do together. I feel bad, i messaged him and told him it was off, he was disappointed. It took me a year to find a man that was able and willing to give an allowance like that but I couldn’t bring myself to do it with him again. I feel like I gave up the opportunity of a lifetime, 4000 a month is more than i ever expected, I’ve seen attractive older men but to find another that is legit seems impossible :/
Then, he was not the perfect SD, unless perfection was only in the financial standpoint. At least you realized that and now you only have to be patient to find a SD that you connect with and things will work out. Check out some of my related blogs and if you find them helpful, please support with a like (heart icon at the bottom)
When you find the perfect SD, you’ll connect on all levels. Just out of curiosity, did you meet this Daddy for coffee, lunch or dinner prior to visiting him at his home?
Going forward, you can set some guidelines for yourself that will help to determine if you’re ready to move forward with an arrangement. Having a “Meet & Greet” with a POT should become your standard. That way, you won’t have to feel bad about finding yourself in a difficult situation like the one you described. You’ll also exude confidence at a meeting when there’s no pressure for sex right off the bat. Within reason, there’s no need to rush a sugar relationship. Meet & Greets help both parties to determine if there’s a good connection and if they’d like to pursue it.
It sounds like you might need to take a break from Sugaring for a bit. You jumped into something without fully understanding it. The way you have this post worded, it makes it sound that only money matters to you. “Perfect SD, except that he repulses me”. That is not the mindset of a SB. That is the mindset of an escort. Just finding a SD willing to give $X amount a month is not finding a SD. It’s finding a John. If a SB or SD does not find a person they are attracted to on some level, and have a connection with, then one person is always going to feel dirty.
Take some time, go over the idea of being a SB. See if it’s for you. There is no shame in thinking this lifestyle isn’t what you wish. It’s hard work.
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