I’m new to SA and I have 3 guys who want to meet me for the first time. Non of them offered any money, and from what I’ve read, there’s a lot of SB’s who get paid for a first meet and won’t accept less than $100, but also, I read that SB’s shouldn’t ask a POT SD about money before the first date.
On WhatsYourPrice.com you get a nominal cash amount to go on a first date. After that, it’s geared towards a vanilla relationship.
SA is sugar oriented and you don’t get paid. If the POT covers anything beyond transportation to the meeting location and the bill for food & drink you consumed, then it’s a courtesy but not an expectation. There is no set amount for that.
You should most likely, stop reading the sites that say a SB get $$$ for a Meet & Great. Does it happen? Yes. But like platonic/virtual SRs, it is very very rare. Also it turns off almost all SDs, and honestly sets a bad tone for any M&G. It would be like the SD asking for nudes from you before thhe M&G. If you are not willing to send those, then don’t be willing to ask for money for a M&G.
Paying a girl for a first meet is a non-starter for me. I won’t do it anymore. I confess, I used to since I thought it was a way to show I am “real” but all I ever got were ghosts.
Small reimbursement for travel is ok, but only if real out of pocket, like uber or valet. I always take care of those. I MAY consider a gift if the date is going very well. For instance, after a great date with a potential SB, I bought her nice perfume.
I am with @ambrose. Most girls that say they got paid are not being honest or real. Also, girls that really want to be part of an arrangement recognize this is a long term thing and understand that expecting or demanding money for a first meet is a non-starter.
Evaluate why you came to the Bowl in the first place and be realisitic. If you shut down your interest simply because you are not getting compensated for your first dates, you will end up discouraged quickly.
What a gang of great responses! All great points. The key is not to ask.. and he’ll want to give.
The girls who ask for money on the first date are hookers. You have to decide on which side you wanna be on. In my experience i find that you catch more fly’s with honey and more fish ,with the way you move the bait around the pole 😉 being an escort is a bad look really with many of these guys. Just a lil advice
Brook nails it. I always plan on paying something on a M&G. I need to learn from BalancedSD, because I still do it to because I think it sets me apart as “real.” With that said, I plan on giving but HATE when someone brings it up pre-meet as a requirement.
I especially dislike when they say they need it because “their time is valuable.” A complete momentum killer.
Depending on the guy I will ask for some sort of payment on the first date. If I think he might be serious and long term then I don’t want to ruin it or give the wrong impression by asking for money up front. If the guy has already showed me that he might seem a little flaky or unsure of his SD capabilities then I will still go on a date to give him the benefit of doubt but I will ask for something to show that he is actually capable of being an SD. I don’t think it has anything to do with being a hooker. I don’t agree with pay per meet dates because of the fact that I don’t want to feel like a hooker but Iv’e had so many men waste my time, it can sometimes be necessary.
please please girls i need help finding a suga daddy im new on here and im unsure of things x
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