I’ve talked about how much I would expect from potential Daddies per playdate, if x y or z is to happen, but I’m wondering… do you collect BEFORE or AFTER you play/meet? I’m not sure and don’t want to step on toes!
There’s a high chance that if you wait until after, you won’t receive anything. A genuine SD recognizes that his POT SB has more to lose and won’t be offended by you reminding him that it’s supposed to be mutually benificial. Ideally, you shouldn’t have to ask, but maybe he’s waiting until you’re alone to hand over an envelope and you’d prefer clarity before then.
[ * although, once you’ve built up some trust, whatever is more convenient ]