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    NYCShapedMe
    NYCShapedMe
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    Hi can anyone give me advice or tips. Every guy that I have talked to so far has been a scammer (asking for my bank info or to buy gift cards). Am I doing something wrong?

    Here’s my headline: Beautiful, vibrant woman interested in more than $

    About me: I am a fun-loving New Yorker. I enjoy intellectual conversation with great people, hearing different views, learning new things, and experiencing everything the world has to offer. I love sports, art, and music. Some of the great artists I’ve seen live are Deff Leppard, Aretha Franklin, Heart, Usher, Kanye West, and Poison, among others. I am currently studying to take the LSAT (Law School Admissions Test) for a second time and I am working as a receptionist. I welcome professional mentorship. Trying to get into law school and working can be stressful but I am looking for a mutual relationship where we can help each other enjoy life and forget about stress. My infectious smile and laughter will intrigue you and your intellect and wisdom will captivate me. I am affectionate and caring if I am interested in a man. Let’s find out if we have common interests and a connection. Then we can meet in person, discover if there is a mutual attraction and if so I can fulfill all your emotional, mental, and physical needs with pleasure.

    LEGAL DISCLAIMER:
    I do NOT grant ANYONE permission to use my profile or photo for ANY purpose. Any violation will be treated as a breach of my right to privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications.

    What I’m seeking:
    I am a real woman (not an escort or similar) and I am looking for a real respectful and stimulating man with integrity and the means to provide for my lifestyle. I like a smart and open-minded man who can tell good stories or make me laugh. Let me know if that is something that interests you and what you are looking for. I would love to get to know you and spend time talking with each other. I am not looking for an online only arrangement and I will not give out my bank information.

    I have 4 full body pics and 2 selfies. I’m a black woman who is on the thick side. Does that have anything to do with the responses I’ve been getting?

    Any suggestions will help thank you ladies!

    #101303

    hoosierdaddy
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    Spend a rainy weekend reading the forums here; you will find plenty of advice and tips. One thing you will find time and again is your complaint and the response that ALL new SB profiles are inundated with messages from spammers, scammers, and other loserammers. In fact, most SDs will tell you that we don’t even try to contact a new SB for at least a couple of weeks because we expect our messages to be lost in the sewage flood. Wait it out, default to deleting most if not all messages the first couple of weeks, and be proactive. Find and reach out to guys you like. Waiting for men to pursue you doesn’t work in the sugar bowl; roles are reversed here.

    There’s nothing terribly wrong with your profile. It starts very generically. The first couple of sentences could be in 90% of SB profiles, but you get traction. First piece of advice is eliminate negativity. Lose the Legal Disclaimer. It is unenforceable. Don’t mention “escort or similar”, as it will not deter the johns, but makes you sound jaded. I can’t advise on photos other than to say selfies are generally a bad idea and just in case it is necessary to say in your case: NO SNAPCHAT FILTERS!!! Really, silly crowns, dog ears/noses, etc. need to stay off SA and the person who invented them needs to die slowly and painfully.

    #101304
    NYCShapedMe
    NYCShapedMe
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    Okay thank you. I didn’t know it wasn’t enforceable. Is there anything I can say that will prevent people using my photo for articles of anything similar. I only have selfies so people can see my face up close. They are clear with no filters or Snapchat effects lol. Those annoy me as well. Okay thank you for the encouragement I will wait it out!

    #101305
    NYCShapedMe
    NYCShapedMe
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    Should I specify my interests to make my profile seem less generic?

    #101308

    hoosierdaddy
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    If you have passions or hobbies that you didn’t list, then yes. Otherwise, like I said, after the generic you got to the point and gave me a good idea about yourself.

    As for pictures in articles, it’s a picture on the internet. Just don’t put pictures up that you would not want seen elsewhere. There is nothing about a random portrait or 3/4 picture of a woman to motivate anyone to put it in an article. What makes you think that’s a concern?

    #101311
    NYCShapedMe
    NYCShapedMe
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    Okay thanks for the suggestions. Well I discovered sa online from an article. The article had pictures of men and women on the site. I don’t want my pictures in anything like that.

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