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  • #25860
    Lena1008
    Lena1008
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    Hey there :)

    I’d love to hear some feedback on my profile! Just turned 18 and don’t have much experience, so any comment would help me.

    About Me
    A young, determined woman with great ambitions for the future. Love working out, cooking and eating healthfully, studying science and languages, ballroom and Latin American dancing, making music.
    My coffee is black and strong, I enjoy Scandinavia far more than the south, thrifted or handmade clothing suits me more than mass production items. One day without going out in nature for a walk is like torture.
    After volunteering I’ll start studying medicine, which is a goal I have been working towards for four years now – if you are into extraordinarily tall, blonde, naive models, I am not your type.

    What I’m Looking for

    Active lifestyle Emotional connection Investor Mentorship Platonic

    I am not an escort, neither am I a prostitute. Messages asking for sex directly will not be answered. Everything else is debatable and we’ll see.
    A relationship should be more than a pretty face and her partner playing the ATM. Don’t worry about me wanting to go on exclusive shopping trips, spending money on unnecessary stuff and wanting to eat in the most expensive restaurants. It’s more about the intellectual connection, I want to learn how to be successful and happy later in life. In return you will get someone who listens to you, talk about work or your experiences and feelings outside of work. Enjoy heated discussions or just want to listen to some hopeful dreams and ideas about the future? That’s no problem either, I can get very passionate about topics dear to my heart like scientific research and human rights or social justice issues (*no SJW*). I enjoy taking personal care of people, comforting them and making them feel good.

    Thanks so much in advance!

    #25861
    Lena1008
    Lena1008
    Participant

    My name is “Lenaaspires” by the way.

    #25862
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
    Participant

    First, let’s dispense of the myth of “platonic” SRs (sugar relationships). Do they happen? Sure. And there are SBs who don’t ask for allowances/gifts. But both of those types of SRs are so small as to be all but fairy tales.

    Only 1 out of 200 SDs is open to platonic. (Honestly that number is closer to 1 out of 500, but we’ll use 200 here) And there are about 10-14 SBs per SD. So for each platonic SD, a SB needs to beat out 1999-2399 other SBs for that one guy. Add in the fact that the platonic SRs that do exist, last over 40% longer than regular SRs and you will see why the SBs in those situations do everything in their power to hold onto their SR. Meaning, those SDs are even less likely to be on the market for SBs than the .5% would indicate. Wherever you came across the idea that platonic SRs are common, or even just rare, is a place you should be hesitant to take advice from. They just do not exist in a statistically significant number. If you are okay only having a platonic, and are fine spending months upon months to hopefully find one, go for it. But if you think it is normal or average, you may need to research the lifestyle you are looking to get into. This is a hard life. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

    I will give more of a profile review later when I get the free time.

    #25863
    Lena1008
    Lena1008
    Participant

    Thank you very much :) I’ll probably remove the tag, if I don’t want to, I can always say no, but who knows about the opportunities I might miss out on…

    #25873
    Lena1008
    Lena1008
    Participant

    After having read some of the advice here, I updated my description:

    About me:
    A young, determined woman with great ambitions for the future. Are you into fitness and lifting? Cool, let’s try a partner workout and perhaps fail miserably! Having a background of working a little in hospital and as a paramedic helper, I’ll take good care of you after 😉
    Make up and fake nails are not my thing, but I like treating my body well by cooking at home and eating healthfully. However, a fed body doesn’t feel right with a hungry mind: Tell me about the way you see the world, your work ethic, your passion for mathematics or human biology, I’ll be more than happy to join in! Do you prefer speaking English oder sollten wir uns auf Deutsch unterhalten? Ehkä sä oot Suomesta ja haluat opettaa mua vähän?
    Or perhaps you like the universal language of mankind and enjoy listening to me playing my violin for you. We could also listen to music together and get up on our feet, be it a fierce salsa or a classy waltz.
    My coffee is black and strong, I enjoy Scandinavia far more than the south. One day without going out in nature for a walk is like torture.
    After volunteering I’ll continue on my academical path and start studying medicine, which is a goal I have been working towards for four years now.

    What I’m looking for:
    A relationship should be more than a pretty face and her partner playing the ATM. Don’t worry about me wanting to go on exclusive shopping trips, spending money on unnecessary stuff and wanting to eat in the most expensive restaurants. It’s more about the intellectual connection, please teach me your ways and how you became the person you are today. Successful people intrigue me and I hope this is the opportunity for me to get to know you in all your facets. In return you will get someone who listens to you, comforts you, gives you a different outlook on life – a rather unexperienced and curious one. Enjoy heated discussions or just want to listen to some hopeful dreams and ideas about the future? That’s no problem either, I can get very passionate about topics dear to my heart like scientific research, human rights or social justice issues. Just let me somehow know you’re interested and we’ll get in touch!

    #25883
    SouthernSD
    SouthernSD
    Participant

    @Lena
    I took a look at your profile.
    Your pictures are good. Every two weeks rotate one of those pictures as the main profile picture.

    The new narrative is better the one that you posted here. When I looked at your profile it still had the old one.

    You may want to make yourself show up in Düsseldorf, more POT SD there.

    Good luck

    #25887
    Lena1008
    Lena1008
    Participant

    Thank you very much :)

    The new description has to be approved, so that’s why the old one is still up. But it should change pretty soon.
    Do you have any other advice?

    #25973
    Ambrose
    Ambrose
    Participant

    @Lena1008
    Your revised profile is rather strong. There is not much I can offer to change on it.

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