So I have a bit of a dilemma and I’m unsure how to proceed or what it means..
Tonight I saw my SD and he gave me a Christmas present. He flies between Los Angeles and New York and was afraid he wouldn’t be able to see me again before Christmas so he decided to give it to me early. He handed over to me a Tiffany’s box but told me not to open it until Christmas. After leaving his house, I couldn’t wait any longer and immediately opened it. It was a gorgeous Tiffany’s necklace, but to my surprise, it was used. The, box, dust bag, ribbon, and envelope were all brand new, the necklace was polished and on a new chain, but the pendent was scratched and dinged up pretty noticeably.
A little background info, my SD is very wealthy, like money isn’t the slightest consideration to him. So I’m sure buying a brand new necklace wouldn’t cause him even a second thought. So why would he gift me an obviously already used gift? I’m trying to wonder if maybe it’s a possible test? Am I supposed to say something or am I not? Maybe his assistant (who’s a female) picked it up for him and wore it before gifting it to me? Maybe he’s given it to a previous SB before?
Regardless, I am absolutely appreciative of it, but it does seem quite odd.
Hi @yoursunshin, honestly it is quite bizarre. If he has an assistant/PA maybe she could have swapped the pendants to keep it for herself?
Regardless of the conspiracy theories, I would just appreciate the gesture and not bring the matter up unless you feel like you have established a secure enough connection with him for it to uphold friction. Nobody likes to have pointed out that they are (possibly) doing something sneaky like this, especially if they are guilty of it. Let it go.
Take it back to Tiffany’s, have them polish the pendant and wear it for your SD to see that you appreciate it. If it still gives you bad vibes, leave it in the jewelry box as insurance in case, God forbid, you wind up needing the money. It’s weird but it’s still a lovely piece of jewelry and a gift.