OK, so I have not met this chap yet but I like his direct no beating around the bush approach, within 3 emails I knew what I needed about him, his expectations and a rough idea on the allowance. And we are set to meet and greet next week.
The thing that’s sort of slowed my pace is this
He said he doesn’t like condoms as it affects his performance ( ahem ) so he would require we got STI tested ( OK ) so we could have sex with no condoms ( UMMM ) and this is why he wants an exclusive arrangment.
Not too sure how I feel about the no condom part
How should I proceed? Want to get my ducks in a row before I meet him
Nope. If it’s only due to performance, rather than an allergy or sensitivity issue, nope.
I had a SD where we got tested rather than using protection, but only after we’d been together exclusively for 4 months using protection.
Check out female condoms, heard nothing but good things about them on TER.
Ehhhh, but he is into giving oral too
Female condoms are also good for oral sex on a female. He will be able to see that it’s there. The one I used covered the vagina and was anchored in place with a large ring placed inside you.
I think if he knows it’s there that will be an issue.
He outlined his sexual expectations and oral both ways is essential In the arrangment. I am starting to wonder if I should throw this fish back
Yeah girl. Throw the whole arrangement away and start over. Unprotected sex should be something you build up to. There’s no real way to know if those test results are real with the way people can purchase anything off the web now. I saw a site where pregnant women were selling urine so you can fake a pregnancy test.
I’m starting to feel like I’ve spoken to every man over 40 in London who is on this site. I have a few pot’s in the background but even those won’t be ideal but atleast they would respect the safe sex part
Girl you think it’s hard to find a SR now, it’s going to be hell like trying it with cold sores/ herpes or worse! It’s just a feeling that he’s just trying to find a SB who will agree and he probably will pay but you won’t see or hear from him again. Just be careful.
@mis. I think I’m just going to tell him no Thankyou and keep looking. I just can’t get past to no condom part. That’s essential to me. I mean even in previous vanilla relationships I used condoms for months before we went without and that was after trust was built.
New SDs sign up on SA everyday. You’ll find yours. You just have to be patient.
@mis a bit slow to the party here but so true about fake documents these days. People can forge anything. And then there’s SDs who say they’ll get tested but won’t tell you their real names. Like dude, the two aren’t really compatible.
The SD who I got tested with instead of using protection went together to get tested 😂 we used to laugh at how unromantic it was.
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