Hi. I was wondering when is it appropriate to discuss allowance.? I know I read before intimacy when a potential SD is showing numbers at me before I even meet him it feels weird.
Also does anyone know what an average sugar baby allowance is? Lets say for meeting a man 2 times a week or something? I just don’t even know what to ask for and if my requests are ridiculous or not. I feel like they generally offer me less than I was thinking.
Always discuss, agree and receive an allowance before intimacy. Don’t fall for promises that he’ll be generous at the end of the month.
For me, it would also be weird to discuss exact numbers before meeting in person. How often are we going to meet? For how long? What activities are we going to do? Are we going to travel? What are the POT SBs needs? Is she using the allowance to invest in herself and education, or just to purchase nice shoes? It all makes a difference. Of course, most SDs have a monthly sugar budget, so it makes sense to get a feel for what the other person is looking for, but I like to keep it vague until we’ve met. Ideally make an offer at the end of the M&G, or perhaps in some followup messages if that’s more comfortable.
For the actual allowance, it’s probably best to talk directly with other SBs in your area ( try the connect with other sugar babies thread ). It’s going to vary a lot based on location. Most important is that it’s an amount that you’re happy with. Something that makes it worthwhile to spend time with that particular SD. There are always going to be SBs with higher allowances than you.
If a POT is messaging you with numbers before you even meet him, that’s probably not a great sign. There are a lot of guys on SA who will throw allowance figures at you in introductory messages, and it’s just BS. A true sugar daddy will want to meet you to see if there’s a connection and chemistry before he’s ready to shower you with money and gifts.
An allowance amount depends on many variables… your location, how often you’ll be seeing each other, monogamous or not, are there gifts and travel involved, what are your needs?, etc. Know what your needs are (within reason) so that you can confidently discuss them when the time is right. I am of the mindset that a perfect sugar relationship is one in which the SD shows his support not out of obligation, but because he genuinely wants to. That type of connection is ideal.
As for when to discuss, I like to wait until after the M&G… as in, don’t rush into the money chat! If he brings it up through text or by phone AFTER the M&G, you could discuss it then. A really good sugar daddy will ask to see you again for lunch or dinner, and that’s when the two of you can solidify the details of your arrangement. Here’s a blog post I wrote after interviewing some sugar daddies on the subject of allowances. If it’s helpful to you, please click the heart at the bottom of the article.
Good luck to you, and happy sugaring!
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