Are my expectations too high?

By Brook

Oct 23, 2015

Let me guess: you’re new to the Sugar Bowl and heard girls get $10k per month from frivolous Sugar Daddies, so you’re setting your expectations high. I mean, you’re worth it, right? RIGHT?!

Wrong. Sorry ladies, Sugar isn’t for the overly sensitive, and I’m going to give you some tough love. There is no guy on the site who’s going to agree to a monstrous allowance before you’ve even met.  And if he is, he’s likely a fake or a creep. Pick one.

You need to ask yourself the question: are my expectations too high? If you have to ask, the answer is probably yes. Scoring an arrangement with an inflated allowance is possible, but it happens when you have a real connection with someone, and takes ample time to warrant the value.

Some of you might be thinking it’s petty to get anything less than $3k per month, and if the guy doesn’t agree to it then you simply won’t consider him. I have another question to consider for those women: are you delusional or just quixotic?

The same way you can’t agree to being intimate before you meet him, he can’t be expected to agree to any amount when all he has to go off are selfies and a string of text messages. Determining how much you actually need is the first step to an accurate allowance estimation. Serena wrote a great blog about determining your allowance.

Above all, you need to treat finding a Sugar Daddy like any other dating experience. A real connection is worth much more to a POT than someone faking it to get in his wallet. Establishing a rapport, going on several dates, and actually caring about him are some of the key ways to get the most out of an arrangement.

“But doesn’t that take a long time?” asks the starry-eyed newbie. Duh, of course it takes a while. You might get hit with beginner’s luck, but sooner or later the Sugar runs dry when emotions evaporate. Be patient, be mature, and be honest about what is a realistic expectation.