Ask Brook – Waiting for Sugar

By Brook

Oct 29, 2015

It’s been two dates and my POT still hasn’t given me any Sugar, what do I do?

Getting into an arrangement doesn’t happen overnight. Usually the best Sugar Daddies are the ones who need a little extra attention to get things started.

So when you’re a couple dates in and still no talk of an allowance, don’t fret. This could very well be a test. He’s likely spending time with you to see if you’re worth it, and if he wants to spend time with you on a regular basis.

In the beginning, you both should have discussed your ideal arrangement. If you were honest about what you expect (i.e. tuition, rent, gifts) then he already knows, and he’s waiting it out to see if you deserve it. During this time it’s a traditional dating scenario. You are getting to know each other to see if this can actually work.

On the third or fourth meeting, make conversation until about halfway through the date so he doesn’t think you only came out to talk shop. At the halfway mark or later, mention something about the tuition/car payment/whatever it is you need money for and can’t afford. If he’s the type of Sugar Daddy you want, he’ll likely take the bait.

If after your sly hint-dropping he still doesn’t get it, at the end of the date it’s time to bring it up again. Be kind hearted and sweet, but also hold your ground. Try something like this: “I really like you and I think we could have a great relationship, but I don’t know if you’re willing to give me the things I want. I know it’s still early, but I’m wondering if you might be able to help me with the bills I mentioned earlier.”

This is the moment you really get to see what he’s about. He will either agree to pay and be courteous, or he won’t. He may decline because it’s too early, and he might do that in the future. Or it could be that he just isn’t interested in this type of arrangement. In the event he doesn’t want to, you have a choice to make. Wait it out, or brush him off.

You don’t want to waste your time, but you also don’t want to cut off a POT prematurely who will be generous at his own pace. If you like him, stick it out as a causal relationship – maybe meet once every couple weeks. If he wants to see you more and you’re arranging your schedule around him, then that will be justification enough for him to help you out financially.