How to Spot a Salt Daddy

By Brook

Jul 26, 2016

 

If I had a dollar for every time someone complained to me about Sugar Daddies on SeekingArrangement not being real, I wouldn’t need a Sugar Daddy.

Everyone’s idea of a Sugar relationship is different, and some people have the wrong idea. Let’s just leave it at that. When learning how to spot a Salt Daddy, some things can be misconstrued as saltish behavior, when in fact the man is not salt at all. Or even worse, he is salt and you think he’s the real deal.

Study these scenarios. Don’t waste time on the wrong guy, or let a POT slip through your well manicured fingers because you’re being a brat.

The Situation:

You meet him on SA, and you’re barely messaging back and forth getting to know each other and already he wants a date.

What You Might Think:

We haven’t even discussed our arrangement, how do I know if he can give me what I want?

The Reality:

Meeting someone in person is the only way to figure out if you want to be in an arrangement with them, and many Sugar Daddies know that. If he already wants to set up a date to meet you, this is a great sign! He’s not jumping the gun, he’s very interested and wants to test out the chemistry. Provided the encounter is just dinner or drinks with no expectations and you are interested in his profile, just go. The worst that can happen is you drink for free.

 

The Situation:

He describes his ideal relationship, and it seems like something totally traditional.

What You Might Think:

Why is he even on SA if he doesn’t want to support me?

The Reality:

Please, for the love of Chanel, stop assuming every man on SeekingArrangement should provide an allowance and support his Sugar Baby. That is so far from the case. Brandon Wade, my boss and fearless CEO of SA, started this site as a way for men with money to easily attract women by letting them know, “Hey, I have money!”

This is by no means a site where everyone gets their bills paid, though many of you do. I’m not saying it’s impossible, I’m saying it’s a 50/50 shot even with a well meaning Daddy. If you like the guy, assume that the spoiled girlfriend situation would be very similar to what you’re seeking, with a bit more commitment.

 

The Situation:

He wants to “try you out” before agreeing to an allowance to see if you’re worth it.

What You Might Think:

He just wants to have sex with me, then ghost.

The Reality:

You’re right! For once… just kidding. But it’s true, any man who expects sex is basically auto-salt. He should be trying to get to know you and figure out if you’re worth his time, not if the sex is worth a dollar amount. You are not for sale.

 

The Situation:

He asks how much you “charge” or “how much for the night” or says he wants to “have fun after” or whatever.

What You Might Think:

This guy is looking for an escort.

The Reality:

Right again! You’re on a roll. Report his ass. You do not charge anything, because Sugar Babies are not paid, they’re gifted. You do not charge, you accept tributes from a close friend or romantic interest. The semantics is important for two reasons. One, for setting the tone of your arrangement. You cannot be bought. And two, for tax and legal reasons. If you’re being paid, not only are you an illegally operating escort… but you also owe taxes on that money.
What are your tips for spotting salt?