If there is one thing that is inevitable when you enter the sugar bowl, it is that you will learn and learn a lot. You will learn about dos and don’ts, communication, boundaries, respect, self-care, coping with rejection, managing expectations, dealing with disappointments, among more. Throughout my various sugar dates and relationships I have learned a lot. I have some sugar secrets and top tips for you, starting with what I’ve discovered about allowances.
Money Money Money
‘’Money, money, money, must be funny, in a rich man’s world!’’ Money is often the elephant in the room. How do you bring it up? How do you bring it up in such a way that doesn’t end up being counterproductive? Through my own failings and successes, I have learned what works best.
Tip One: Talk about money in person. Not online, in text messages or over the phone. This is because it comes across as lazy and it also means that your sugar daddy/ mommy can hang up or leave you on ‘read’ (which is so annoying!). Whereas, discussing it in person is adult, mature and genuine.
You will be better placed to talk about money and explain your thoughts if you do so in person, face to face. Tip Two: It’s important to not make money the focus (even if it is!). It has to be merely a feature of the arrangement. Don’t prioritize money or it will put off a POT. This has happened several times to me. Talk about money as little as possible and your sugar daddy/ mommy won’t feel exploited and this may in turn lead to them being more generous and trustworthy of your intentions so it is a win win.
How Much Do I Want
When deciding how much you want or need financially it isfor several days or longer. Don’t hastily say ‘oh, I need this much’, or ‘give me xxx amount a month or I’m not interested’. Assess what you need to cover immediate costs such as rent and food and maybe add a little extra for some luxuries. It may be that your sugar daddy/ mommy will give you a base amount to cover your rent and food costs but will buy you luxuries as surprises.
See what is on offer as a whole and don’t just focus on cash. You could receive more than just money. You could receive amazing experiences and holidays, mentorships and trainings, among more. Additionally, assess what is practical and realistic. Can your sugar daddy/ mommy afford what you expect? Do you live in a wealthy city full of sugar daddies and mommies or do you live in a smaller town? This will impact upon what is possible.
Don’t Be Afraid to Be Honest
I have learned it is best to be upfront with what you are looking for rather than pretending you are open to everything and anything. Being upfront may deter some POTs but it will also lead to success with many also because it shows that you know what you are looking for. What has happened to me countless times is that I have been coy about what I was looking for thinking it would lead to more potential arrangements but in actual fact it led to things ending fast and the wasting of my time so it is better to cut to the chase and see what happens.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Don’t compare yourself to others and fall for the illusion that others create as this will make you doubt your allowance and your sugar daddy/ mommy leading you to feel inferior and to become unfulfilled and unsatisfied with your arrangement. Know that others are probably not being fully honest with what they receive and how their arrangement is, they will probably exaggerate and embellish it.
Note that a sugar baby may need a higher allowance if they live more expensive city. Even if another baby is getting a grand or two more than you it may be just going on rent. Whereas yours could be splashed on luxuries or saved.
Keep Calm and Sugar On
Don’t take things personally. As they say, don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t read into little things. Most sugar daddies/ mommies love a calm and cool-headed sugar baby.
Save For a Rainy Day
It is totally up to you what you do with your allowance or any money you come to have. I have benefited by saving extra money whenever I could. This helped me because it meant I had a reserve to draw on if I was between arrangements. It also boosted my self-esteem. I could look at my savings bank account balance and see a fair sum which made me feel good.
Implement these top tips into your arrangement. You should prepare yourself for super sweet sugar!