You’ve been in an arrangement for quite some time now. You’ve enjoyed wining and dining, the lavish gifts, assistance with school, and you’ve even worked out an initial allowance that has been mutually agreed upon by both parties. You’ve put in time on your end– complimenting Daddy, being his eyecandy at functions, and fulfilled any other agreed upon aspects. But a Sugar Daddy is not a boyfriend and settling is not what the Sugar Lifestyle is about. Therefore, it’s time to negotiate an allowance upgrade.
Get Comfortable Asking
We all know the cliche, “closed mouths don’t get fed.” As cliche as it may be, it’s the truth. If you want something you need to speak up! If your Sugar Daddy hasn’t brought up the topic of an allowance bump, forget the whole “ladies first” thing and bring it up! The easiest way to do so is to approach the topic indirectly by asking him his opinion. Start out by asking how he feels the arrangement is going. Does he seek any changes? How can you be a better Sugar Baby? Be genuine with your inquiry. We call this “warming him up.” Once you have him relaxed and talking, then insert the upgrade topic. He may find the conversation too abrupt if you simply spat out at the dinner table that you want more money.
If you still are too shy and uncomfortable to ask – you might prefer the distance of the telephone over a face-to-face discussion. If you’re not completely confident in what you’re asking for, your Sugar Daddy might be able to gather that through your nervous expression, your hand gestures, or other telling signs. On the phone, however, all you need to control is your voice. Speak with confidence and be prepared.
Be Ready. . .
Approach asking for a higher allowance like you would a raise at work. Think of the justification. Has the frequency of your meetings increased? Have you had to open up your schedule due to a change in his? Or perhaps you have a new project or goal you are trying to reach. Sugar Daddies are all about success and he will be more willing to fund your goals if he feels you appreciate him for being such a positive asset to your life. Men, after all, want to feel needed. Don’t be afraid to share with him why you would like an upgrade in your allowance, especially if you feel it will help your case!
… Yet also Reasonable
Sure, we all want to quit our vanilla jobs and receive a $10,000 allowance deposit in our accounts each month, but let’s come back down to Earth. The ratio of Sugar Babies to Sugar Daddies is 8 to 1. That’s a lot of demand for Daddies when there is a limited supply. However, there are ways to research more allowance potential from your Daddy. Is he an employee or does he own his own company? Does he have a family to support or is he single? Does he own his home or does he rent? You can often find all this out by actively listening to the things he says as well as putting Google to good use. Based on what you estimate to be his earning potential, you will know the reasonable range he can afford to go to.
Prepare to Say Bye Felicia
Men who understand your value as a Sugar Baby are willing to pay for it. They know you’re worth it. They want what you have to offer. These men make better investments in the long run because they already know you’re worthwhile. We don’t recommend ever begging or trying to convince any Sugar Daddy to give you what you want. Desperation is opposite of ambitious, no matter how “good” you think you are.
At the same time, if you’re settling for less than what you want – you’re not going to be happy enough to keep him happy. It’s a two-way street. After all we’re here seeking mutually beneficial relationships. Your needs must be met. The good Sugar Daddies know this. If your current Daddy is firmly against raising an allowance, don’t be afraid to seek another or rethink the arrangement. Alternately, if you have a great arrangement with him, but he says cannot upgrade your allowance at that moment, it may benefit you more to stick around. Remember you can always negotiate money, but you can’t negotiate chemistry or connection in the Sugar Bowl!