Etiquette for Mistresses (or in this case, Sugar Babies)

By 3sh

Oct 21, 2015

I recently got dragged to the movie theater by a friend who wanted to see this foreign Filipino film (don’t worry, it had English subtitles and half of what they say is in English anyway), and it is called “Etiquette for Mistresses“. It is based on a book, and sheds a good light on the life of a mistress.


Most people obviously view the term “mistress” as something that is horrible and trashy, but in this movie, they portray 5 different classy & refined women, with whom are the “other woman.” The movie depicts these women as Sugar Babies.Their Sugar Daddies give them all very different lives, but nonetheless, provide lavish lifestyles.


Throughout the movie, tips from excerpts of the book are given and advise what to do and what not to do as a mistress. I thought I’d share this movie with all of you Sugar Babies because this is the first movie that sheds some sort of a positive light and also the real truth of the life of the “other woman”, or in our case, a Sugar Baby. We don’t see this very often, so this is a great perspective on being a Sugar Baby instead of a desperate home wrecker. You can check out the movie or read the book, it’s very informal and insightful, so I definitely recommend!


I also came upon an Instagram account of someone who gave a review on the movie:

“Etiquette for Mistresses is NOT a film about mistresses. Rather, it’s a film about 5 empowered, accomplished women who found friendship, solace & comfort in each other, they just happen to be kept women of high profile men. It also provides a social commentary on today’s current issues & does away from the usual “begging to come back” scenes that usually takes place in local films that tackle infidelity or mistresses.


This film doesn’t promote how it is to become a mistress. The film aims to show that mistresses still live in the shadows, that it will always be considered taboo to have a mistress (for men) and to become a mistress (for women) & for these 5 women, they are defined by the choices they make within & outside their respective illicit affairs. We have never seen this kind of ensemble power casting in a long time.


This could be Kris Aquino’s (@withlovekrisaquino) best performance to date as the prim & proper Georgia. Iza Calzado (@missizacalzado) gives the film its logical & steely resolve as Stella. Kim Chiu (@chinitaprincess) is the heart & soul of the film as Ina, and I commend her for taking on a role that is outside her comfort zone. Cheena Crab (@cheenacrab) is hilarious with her punchlines as Charley while the comeback kid Claudine Barretto (@claubarretto) puts out a tour de force performance as the rebellious mistress Chloe, and I must admit that the big screen sorely missed her brilliance as one of our best actresses.


Each actress had their defining moments, and nobody upstaged each other. I also love the film’s sophisticated milieu & the opulence written all over it, and the story is both funny & dramatic at the same time. As always, master director Chito Roño (@chitorono) delivers another masterpiece, a nice addition to his already beautiful filmography. Highly recommended!!!”