Women have always got the crappy end of the stick. Did you know that just last year, women working full time in the United States typically were paid just 79 percent of what men were paid, a gap of 21 percent? For women of color it’s even lower. Even women with a bajillion years of education still can’t hold up against the simple anatomy of being a man. Women today are more likely than men to complete college and attend graduate school, and make up nearly half of the country’s total workforce. So what’s the deal? Is there hope for the millennial woman?
Last week, Academy Award winning actress Jennifer Lawrence wrote a “Lenny Letter” essay that spread like wildfire on social media shedding light to a very real issue not only in the entertainment industry, but all over. She addressed her experiences of making less than her male counterparts. Lawrence may not be a Sugar Baby but her argument proves society’s expectation of women to be docile and content with what they receive. After all, no one likes a spoiled brat, right? She brings up a valid point, when was the last time you heard a man get called a “spoiled brat” for standing up for himself? Men are never called out when they ask for a salary increase, better titles or job roles within their companies. Her essay outlined the basic female mindset. As females, are we not allowed to display the same amount of bluntness as men when we feel we are being capitalized on?
On SeekingArrangement.com, women play on the same level as men and get ahead in life through mentorships, extra money, tuition paid for, etc, Instead of seeing Sugar Babies as gold diggers and escorts, maybe it’s time society recognizes, the Sugar Baby is the ultimate feminist. There is nothing wrong with using your male competition to help close the gender wealth gap. Successful Sugar relations work because nothing is “fluffed” or “beat around the bush.” We are innately nurturing and compassionate, but when we are being ripped off, taken advantage of, or simply used, women on the site get to say so without worrying about backlash.
In a workplace, it’s not always the case. Lawrence described an instance in her essay in which she expressed her opinion regarding her work “in a clear and no-bullshit way; no aggression, just blunt.” She wrote that the man quickly became defensive in a way that implied she was being aggressive when, in actuality, she was just expressing her own opinion in the same way she’s seen every man do. Have you ever carefully crafted your opinions, worrying about what employers would say if it didn’t sound sweet or likable? The truth is, double standards will never go away at this rate if we allow this behavior to remain permissible. We are a lot further than we were 90 years ago when we didn’t even have a ballot to cast, but there is work to be done.
Do you feel like you are paid the same amount as your fellow male coworkers?