Dirty Texting Tips That Don’t Involve Pictures

By Julia Jones

Feb 09, 2019

When it comes to any sort of relationship, including sugaring, eventually you two are going to text- and when that happens chances are those texts will turn into something a little more heated than you’d send just a friend. And there’s a lot of debate about whether or not you should send dirty texts- more importantly, what kind of dirty texts you should send. The truth is, I discourage sending photos; and with the right methods, you don’t even need them.

Make it about timing

Sometimes the only thing you need is to time your text just right for it to make your POT lose their mind. A great option is early morning texts if you know they are going to be up before you. Surprise them by reminding them how much you miss them, or miss parts of them.

“When I see you next” text

This is an easy one that always works, send your POT a text about the next time you see them, and everything you want to do to them. Use details and don’t be scared to send an essay here. Use detailed words, too. Start with exactly what you want to do as soon as you see them. Do you even want to bother saying hi? Move on to two or three things you want to do right away- this can include positions, something he does (like if there is a way you like him to hold you) or something you do (like if there is a place you like touching him), then focus on how you want to spend the rest of the night. Another round maybe? Or two.

Finally, wrap your text up with something simple like “I wish this day would go by faster so I could come to see you” and you will be set to go.

Sandwich it

You know how if you’re giving critique you’re supposed to use the sandwich method. Good, bad, good. Well, sexting has a method as well that is very close only it’s all good. Think of it more like: dirty, sweet, dirty. And as most sandwiches do, the bread (dirty parts) should outweigh the filling (sweet parts) to keep your POT getting excited.

“I want”

This one is pretty self-explanatory. What do you want from them? What do you want to do to them? What do you want to feel? What do you want them to do to you? Tell your POT what you want. In detail. How you want them, where you want them, what you want them to be wearing or what you want to be wearing for them.

The question

This is a really fun one to play with because you can go for the shock factor. “Can I come over for a quickie?”, “Should I bring some of my toys over?”, “Want me in a corset or naked?”
The question is all about getting his feedback and surprising him with it.


Yes, yes, I said you don’t have to send pictures of yourself I know. And you know what? I mean it! But that doesn’t mean you can’t make full use of other pictures. From positions you want to try to new lingerie you’re thinking about getting, or just a girl you think he will find attractive (this works great themes he’s into as well, like a sexy nurse or a TV character he has a crush on). Even just a picture of your bed and a quick statement like “Guess what I wish I was doing on here. You.” can do the trick to make it hard to get your POT’s mind off you.