When it comes to sugaring it seems pretty common for both SB and SD to want more than one- and that’s okay! But sometimes, it can get pretty hard so today, let’s talk about how you can make it easier on you and your POT.
First things first
There’s no pretending otherwise; it’s probably going to be hard to have more than one POT. If you try to pretend that it’s not going to be at least a little hard you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. But just because something is a challenge doesn’t mean it’s not going to be amazing.
Don’t try to hide the fact that you have more than one POT. If you’re sneaking around it’s just going to be a recipe for disaster and you should respect your POT enough not to hide something like this from them.
Get a calendar
Don’t screw up your dates! Get a calendar, make plans with your POTs and write it down so you don’t forget who gets to see you on what days. After all, you want to do your best not to confuse the two (or more) of them. But it might happen, and we’re going to talk about that in a second. Have open conversations about your plans for the week and when each of your POT’s are free so that you can all work with each other to come up with a good schedule.
Learn to communicate
Communication can be hard. Sometimes it means we gotta say things we really don’t want to say, and that’s going to have to be okay- otherwise, it’s not going to work. When you have more than one POT you’re going to have to say things like “No, I can’t see you I’m with someone else that night.” and that’s going to have to be okay.
When you first talk to your POT about having more than one person, decide right off the bat how you are going to handle it. Some people don’t like to know anything about the other person, and they’d rather just hear that you’re ‘busy’ that night- or they might want to hear how your dates go. Ask them what they need from you, and communicate what you need. It might be uncomfortable, but it’s healthy to get it out of the way.
It’s okay to take notes, and it’s okay to screw up
First let me just say, you’re going to screw up every now and then. When it happens, own up to it and apologize and move on.
But, it’s important to try and make sure that doesn’t happen, if that means you have to take notes that’s okay. I know some sugar babies who do it, and you know what, they never forget a birthday or a favorite color or a favorite drink. Which means they always have the right drink ready when their sugar daddy comes over.
Never lose yourself
When it comes down to it, the most important thing is to make sure you never lose yourself in the pursuit of sugar. When you have more than one sugar daddy, it can be even harder to make sure this doesn’t happen. Give yourself at least two days a week to yourself where you can work on yourself, your life, and your goals. Continue to try new things and to grow. Take the time to invest in yourself even if that means you have to skip out on a meeting with one your daddies.
Make sure your POT’s know it’s not a competition
And you shouldn’t let it be treated like one. Having more than one sugar daddy is fine, but you should never make them feel like they have to win you if you do that you’re not doing it right and you should stop to ask yourself why you feel the need to do this.