When it comes to any relationship it’s important to remember that there will always come a time when y’all will argue. But the thing you have to focus on when a fight arises is that you have to be able to fight fair. So, here is a simple process for you both to make sure that when a fight arises you don’t let it get out of control. It’s important to remember that it will happen, and when handled right a fight can help you both grow.
Give Yourself Time to Process
It’s so important to give yourself time to process how you’re feeling and what you’re actually feeling, why you’re feeling it and what else is going on.
One thing to remember is often times when we’re angry, it’s not actually anger. It’s something else. For example, say Daddy keeps having to work late and blowing off date night- it’s not actually anger. It’s probably something closer to hurt. Hurt that it feels like Daddy is always too busy for you. It’s important to understand why you’re feeling the way you are so you can tell Daddy what is actually wrong.
Make sure You don’t Have any Distractions
No phone. No tv. No music even.
Make sure that when you and Daddy sit down and talk about everything, you two don’t have distractions that will try to take you away from the conversation that you two are going to have.
Hold Daddy’s hand, sit on his lap, or just cuddle in bed. Make sure you two have physical contact. It’s so much harder for things to get heated when you two are in a loving embrace.
When you and Daddy are talking about the issue, don’t be scared to take a time out and kiss. But don’t use it as a way to avoid the issue!
Work on Finding a Way to Fix the Issue at Hand
It’s not just enough to talk about what’s going on, you also have to focus on finding something to fix it. That may mean you have to try something new, you and Daddy might have to step out of your comfort zone to do so, but it may also mean making your relationship stronger. It may mean you have to take more blame than you want, but that’s worth it in the end.
Take turns Talking
Make sure that you two both take the time to get your message through. It’s easy for things to get out of hand when someone is hurt and with that, someone may say something without thinking it through.
Start the conversation off with each of you having a few minutes to talk without the other interrupting. Then turn it into a conversation, allow you both to talk freely and allow you both to express your hurt- its important in a healthy relationship for you both to be able to feel hurt and to feel validated about your feelings. Without there, it won’t be a healthy relationship.
Take Time for Something Fun after You Fight
Once the fight is over, it’s important to make sure you both take the time to move on from the fight. Take time to have fun together after a fight so you can focus on putting the negativity to the side, but make sure you don’t forget everything that happened- let yourself grow from it. Make sure you two take time to do something fun together after the fight, don’t just go back to your day to day life and go about your own things. Go for dinner, go for a movie, spend the night in bed.