Do Not Fall In Love with a Daddy
What I realized in this world is nothing is certain, one day you are swimming in daddies, one day you are wondering if you will ever meet one again.
Then one day….
You do meet someone. You fall for that someone….
You think because everything was prediscussed and there is a true connection that you can hopelessly rush into things without any abandon.
But, ah we must remember, when money is involved it gives the man the entitlement to end things whenever they see fit.
Without any explanation.
You got what you originally asked for didn’t you?
Why explain when they can just run the other way and sleep comfortably knowing your rent was at least paid.
F*ck your feelings and the even deeper issues of self-worth they have carved into you!
Never rely on a daddy….
And most certainly never sit in his lovely apartment with a big lovely glass of wine as he smothers you in those lovely kisses and tells you he adores you and that you are safe.
Because you are far from safe.
You must keep your guard. Be your own boss. Never attach yourself to any outcome.
This is not Cinderella’s fairytale and you are definitely not Cinderella.
I am not saying don’t have feelings.
Feelings are what makes the sex more intense.
Feelings are paramount to a successful mutually beneficial arrangement.
Trust accumulated more and more after each meeting is beautiful and a necessary transition.
But remember, this transition is also a transaction.
Not just financially but emotionally.
And transactions, once they have been made, do not have to happen again.
You can buy something once, then decide not to buy it again, or go for a different brand.
Please do not let this affect your self-worth in any way.
ANYONE who is emotionally stable and self-satisfied would be able to go into a bar and pick up a girl or jump on Tinder.
But no, this guy contacted you from a Sugar site.
And he thinks he can put his finger in many pies (literally) and not have to suffer any emotional consequences simply because he helped you with your rent, took you for a nice meal, showed ‘the poor student’ a good time.
DO. NOT. FALL. IN LOVE.
Or you will be like me, sitting by the phone, waiting for him to realize there is no other girl out there like me.
That at any moment he will come running back.
He won’t.
I can promise you that.
I don’t see how it would be possible to avoid falling in love with an SB, eventually, but then I’m an empath. And accidentally trying to be a sugar daddy, apparently.
I was checking on legit dating options for mature man – “childbearing age range” woman sites. I joined one, to quietly research for soon enough, which was supposed to be good and to have some sugar activity, but it would be obvious from the profiles. This was an article covering several sites which spanned the spectrum.
I checked, and within like 400 miles, the only serious “actual dating person” looking profile was this amazing woman. I guess I can speak freely, since she can’t hear us. I’ll post elsewhere fully for advice here, but…
26, defense attorney, looking to get her Master’s Degree soon. And so on. Positive as… I don’t know… a songbird.
Even looking through her trying to hide things she sees as flaws like her nose, neck or smile lines; the visualizing of the artist’s eye reveals that she need not hide them. Where was I? Ah yes; smart, loyal, awesome, reminds me at a glance of the princess the unicorn became In The Last Unicorn. I tell you, it’s true.
Skipping ahead. I realized the site is all Sugar, so I’m pursuing her. She would be very easy to love. Should we work out, I’ll likely use euphemisms and wait to say until I’m certain she loves me back. I don’t want to Sugar-spook her.
With men, we have hormones which release at orgasm that cause us to feel like staying with her, protecting her, helping provide, etc. To not function looks that, thoughts from those hormones have to be socially interfered with. It makes love easier. Let’s face it, if I’m successful, we may have a large amount of sex. I’m going to be in love with this woman after a certain point, at the best I will be able to do.
I’ll be thinking about and getting little gifts for her, messaging her, and so on. We’ll meet some and plan more dates. This seeing each other more, sharing various attentions and affections, and certainly when combined with some relatively regular sex; it’s going to ensure that I love her, eventually, for.sure.
I know. Mine is not the usual situation. Oh, hahaha! I was travelling for work and suddenly had it dawn on me that the Master’s Degree was what she might want help covering, and that the Whole site was Suger! Damn, did I laugh at me for a bit.
I’ll try to maintain distance and so on as long as I can stand it. Like I say, I don’t want to Sugar-spook her, and I for sure don’t want to get Sugar-fired.