Long distance arrangements aren’t just for vanilla dating. Sugar couples can go the distance, too! In fact, my very first arrangement was with a man who lived in the Deep South while I was attending university in New England. I loved it for a number of reasons, but every Baby and every Daddy are unique. Here are some of the major pros and cons of a long distance arrangement, so you can decide for yourself if it’s right for you!
Pro: Lots of travel!
What a long distance arrangement ISN’T, is online. Those sorts of arrangements don’t really exist, because the internet is full of free porn and much cheaper chat girls than any Baby. They’ll also get you banned on SeekingArrangement if you try looking for them on the site, because they just aren’t part of the sugar bowl!
Since Daddy is busy, you’ll probably travel to (or with) him most of the time. I love traveling, so that’s a big plus for me! Make sure you sign up for hotel and airline rewards programs, and you can even earn a little non-sugar travel for yourself.
Con: You’ll need to be an ace scheduler.
If you have a full-time job or you’re a full-time student, it’s going to take some work to juggle your real life obligations and sugar travel. A little black book to serve as my planner, along with meticulous attention to detail, made it work for me.
Pro: It’s easier to be discreet.
There are plenty of Babies (and Daddies!) out there who like to wear their sugar bowl status loud and proud. Unfortunately, some more conservative careers (and families) can be judgmental. If you’re someone like me, who likes to keep her sugar status as a sexy secret, long distance arrangements can make that much easier.
If all of your dates are accompanying Daddy on business travel in a third location that’s neither of your hometown, it’s simple to keep sugar separate from the rest of your life. You can eat out, go to the theater, and paint the town red with your Daddy, without bumping into anyone you know!
Make sure you always tell at least one trusted confidante where you will be and who you will be with, for safety. You can find a sugar sister for safety and accountability in the Let’s Talk Sugar forum!
Con: They can be harder to keep.
Because long distance arrangements are more expensive and less convenient for Daddy than local arrangements, you have to not only be as good for him as the Babies in his area, but better. Always be sweet and never fight with Daddy, or it could be the end of the sugar.
Pro: Easier to keep separate.
When you’re traveling out of town to see Daddy, or he only visits your city for dates, it’s much easier to keep the lines between your sugar life and your vanilla life clean. A long distance Daddy is less likely to try to set up a last minute date. It’s also easier to leave your real life stress behind when you step on the plane and put yourself into your laid-back, fun, and engaging Baby mindset.
Con: Fewer Daddies to choose from.
Having a Baby in a different state can easily cost Daddy a few extra grand each month. Since you’ll still want the generous allowance and gifting that come with this sort of relationship, far fewer Daddies can afford to have a Baby in a different state.
Your best bet at finding a Daddy who is open to a long distance arrangement is looking for Daddies who make at least $1 million per year and are comfortable with a Substantial to High lifestyle budget. Additionally, most real Daddies who will consider a long distance arrangement either live in an area without many local Babies or they’re married and want to keep their real lives and the sugar bowl far apart.
Happy sugaring, ladies!