Advice for Your First Time

By Contessa

Jul 14, 2017

Having sex with your Sugar Daddy for the first time is incredibly exciting but bound to be a bit nerve-wracking. That’s why it is important to keep these four simple tips in mind for making the experience memorable – but for all the right reasons.

Rule 1: Don’t Jump the Gun

So you have been messaging for a while, your face lights up every time you see his incoming call on your phone and the first date has finally been arranged. If you are anything like me, you will have imagined the both of you in every Karma Sutra position, before the starters have even arrived.

It is important to remember though that your first meeting with someone is the perfect time to assess if that chemistry translates in person. Adding sex into the equation straight away can often cloud our judgement.
So keep things slow and steamy from the get-go. Any time his hands start to wander too daringly or it seems like he’s going to try to go for the main event, grab his wrists and hold them tight. Then give him a long, drawn-out, passionate kiss. The back and forth nature of going between heavy petty and kissing will keep things well paced and will only intensify the (hopefully) mind-blowing sex to come.

Rule 2: Prepare

Prepare in every way. Firstly, safety is a must. Knowing contraception has been discussed and covered before things get hot and heavy can really help to relax you during the act.

Secondly, the dreaded bikini wax. Whether you are a fan of the ‘Hollywood’ or you want to leave your lady garden how mother nature intended, a little maintenance goes a long way. Your first time with your Sugar Daddy can really be a game changer. Feeling your best physically will help give you that extra boost of confidence in the bedroom. It could be as simple as wearing your favorite underwear!

Lastly, if you know that you find it difficult to relax into sex, let him know! It is absolutely normal to feel nervous. Chances are he is just as nervous at the thought of letting you down. Opening that conversation beforehand can just help you both understand each other’s mind-set and give you an opportunity to reassure one another.

Rule 3: Set Your Expectations

It is important to realise his penis might not do everything the two of you want; a sad but true fact! Whether it is premature ejaculation, a limp penis mid-sex, or an inability for orgasm to strike, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with your or your partner for that matter.
Comfort, ease and knowledge of what the other person needs to have a toe-curling orgasm often takes time and communication. Sex is messy, human, flawed and often awkward whether it is your first time with him or your thousandth. Unless you are incredibly lucky and the physical chemistry between you both is immediate and reciprocal, for the rest of us, it certainly takes practice.

Rule 4: Foreplay, Foreplay and More Foreplay

The more aroused you are the better sex is likely to feel. Don’t neglect or spare on foreplay, including oral sex and yes, good, old-fashioned kissing. It is generally easier for women to orgasm from oral sex or having him use fingers. Encourage this if he is not already there himself. Clitoral stimulation is the key to most women’s pleasure.

It is important to remember that lube really can be your best friend! Try carrying a small tube in your handbag, in case you need to unexpectedly call upon it. It could be because you have a hard time with natural lubrication. Or you want to (understandably) decrease any possibility of there being painful frictions. Or you simply want to introduce a new feeling to sex, lube can very much enhance our pleasure.

Writer’s Tip*

If you don’t have an orgasm right away, don’t feel pressure to pretend to have one. Faking the big ‘O’ can often be difficult to retract. Once you start and you deserve one just as much as he does! Try not to think of an orgasm as your responsibility. Instead think of it as a fun goal to work toward with your Sugar Daddy.