Introduction to BDSM Toys

By Diddy Bee

Dec 10, 2017
We should have a look at BDSM toys that do not need to be purchased in a sex store. With the basic ideas of toys, finding them in places like your closet and kitchen makes experimentation easy and budget friendly. Chemistry and sex is an important fundamental in any romantic relationship so let’s explore this introduction to BDSM toys.

Introduction to BDSM Toys

I for one am very adventurous. I love to experiment and bring new things into my relationship. This is especially true in the bedroom. I have a few pointers on sex toys. Toys can be found as your general house tool/utensil that you can substitute and how to safely use them. As much as it is easy to just buy, using what you have in your house old can be spontaneous and just as much fun when it’s time to get raunchy. Let’s begin!

What Should You Know About Sex Toys?

As times are evolving the disdain regarding talking about sex diminishes. This is also true for sex literacy like terminologies, positions and sex toys increase. There are many types of sex toys and as such many props that can be used as toys for sex. Sex toy use is not new as the first recorded use goes all the way back to Ancient Greece.

Studies have suggested that a good masturbation is advantageous to women. It helps with menstruation, body aches and ensures a good night sleep. For men, masturbation helps reduce the risk of prostate cancer. So why shouldn’t you have a good sex toy that you can use? Studies also show that when sex gets boring and stale in a relationship, toys can help to spice it up and amph the tempo. We know how good it feels when used solo, it even gets better when used in a relationship.  It adds a lot of twists to the possibilities.

Household Toys

Restraints: Let’s begin with the basics, cuffs. Handcuffs or restraints are the basic intro into bondage play and make up an essential part in sex. There are many different positions that cuffs can be used during sex. You do not necessarily have to run to the store to buy some. Alternative would be wrapping a scarf or pair of panties, zip ties, a rope or piece of cord. Warning, this is mainly for hands and legs and ensure to have a scissors or cutter nearby to free your partner just in case.

Blind folding: Using either an eye mask or a piece of clothing this is a very simple trick.
Clamps: Hair clips or my favourite. Clothes pin can be used on various parts of the body but I’d suggest fleshy parts of the body like nipples, butt, thigh and chest.

Paddle: For this you can use a large wooden spoon or spatula. They create a unique sensation against the skin and can serve as a paddle or spanking tool. Coconut oil if you have some can serve as a good lubricant but be mindful that it degrades condoms. Speaking of sweet, Nutella, as your edible body paint, the only wrong is the need to change the sheets afterwards.

Cool Sensations: Last but not least, a mint mouthwash or candy will give you fresh breath and if you are orally inclined will create a wonderful sensation and cause chills on just the vital parts.

What is Aftercare?

As the name suggests, simply the care that is given after a play or scene or session. Whatever you choose to call it I would advise setting time for it. The first type of aftercare which happens to be my favourite is the physical aftercare. This is where there is body contact, it could be cuddling, gentle caressing, massaging or a warm sensual bath.
The second is called psychological aftercare. This has more to do with talking about how each partner may feel, what they enjoyed and thoughts especially if this was a new act. What aftercare does is eliminate whatever issues or feelings that might have developed during or after the act. Opening the dialogue if this session is to continue, stopped or what should be changed/added, sex experts advise this be an important aspect in your sex life.

Now, I know I am only able to cover just a tip of the iceberg. I do hope that this has inspired some, and I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments and suggestions. If you do want to splurge and get some toys, I’d suggest a site like extreme-restraints which helped my imagination run wild. Yours should too!

Lastly, keep in mind that most of the items that I mentioned may be strictly made not to be inserted into the body, ensure that utensils like spoons and spatula are clean before use. Remember to always make it safe, sane and consensual.