Let’s Talk Masturbation

By Contessa

Jun 16, 2017

Virtually all women are physically able to climax and indeed go on to have multiple orgasms if the circumstances are right. However, a significant number of women find it incredibly difficult to achieve the ‘Big O’.

A lot of young women in particular are worried about their lack of ability to climax. The truth is, unlike males, most females have to actually learn how to reach orgasm. Therefore, exploring our own bodies, specifically through masturbation, is often a great learning tool to understand exactly which pressures and rhythms is needed to bring on a euphoric release. With that said, let’s talk masturbation…

How to Begin

There are numerous ways in which to masturbate but the majority of women find that clitoral stimulation is needed for an orgasm to occur. Regardless of the sort of self-love that works best for you and your body, remember there are no limits and no inhibitions needed.

Up & Down

This first masturbation technique will get you started and is extremely easy. Focus on the clitoris, and all you need to do is to take a finger and just start rubbing up and down on one side of it or for more stimulation, then try rubbing your finger directly over your hooded lady.

The Long Slow Stroke

Using one or more fingers, very lightly and softly glide over the middle of your vagina and clitoris, from bottom to top. Listen to your body to feel which areas provide the most pleasure and stimulation when touched.

Side to Side

This is another simple and straightforward masturbation technique focusing on your clitoris. As the name suggests, rub your finger from side to side and play around with the pace.

Fantastic Fun with Four Fingers

This may be the most used and effective masturbation technique. Use four fingers to rub your sweet spot, making it easy to climax. Hold four fingers together and try to rub them over the whole area, including your clitoris, in a circular motion.

U Spot

So many women don’t seem to know about the U Spot. It is the area of skin just above your urethral opening and to the sides of it. To stimulate it you just need to gently stroke it with the tip of your finger and remember it may be sensitive at first. While rubbing only your U Spot is enormously pleasurable, an even better masturbation technique is to rub softly from your U Spot right up to your clitoris and back down again.

Vibrator Time

If all else fails, women find achieving an orgasm much easier and actually more intense, with the help of a vibrator. Whether you just want the vibrating element, the actual penetration of the toy, or both, play around to see what you enjoy.

Think Outside the Box

Whilst these are a just a few powerful techniques to help achieve an eye-rolling and toe-curling orgasm, it is inevitable that whilst experimenting, you will find what works best for you. Perhaps change the level of pressure you use, gently pull on your labia or squeeze a nipple. It may feel pleasurable to dabble with some lubricant or try different speeds, whether this is with a toy or simply using your fingers and even vary how many fingers you do use. Some women have claimed to have had great satisfaction from directing a shower head on themselves and many enjoy the intense sensations ice cubes induce for example. It is all about self-exploration whilst no one is watching you.

Where to Go From Here?

Once you have learned to climax easily on your own, you can then show your partner exactly what you need in order to pleasure you to the limit. It is natural for this to feel embarrassing at first. However, it is important to remember that the first step in sexual fulfillment with a partner is to communicate your feelings and express exactly how you like your body to be touched. Your Sugar Daddy will not only appreciate the pointers because it will have saved him a lot of failed attempts in figuring it out, but also he will most likely want to watch you in action and that could possibly be the greatest turn-on to both him and you.