My BDSM Daddy

By Diddy Bee

Oct 09, 2017

I kept asking myself why I had no luck after creating a profile. I have gone on full blast mode searching religiously everyday. Sometimes I go days without signing in. I have come close, but not nearly enough to scoring a POT. I’m exotic, well educated, who wouldn’t want me? Who wouldn’t want to spend time and money on me? See the thing is I was not receiving the right kind of attention I wanted and so I decided to change things and amph up my profile. I went from a two sentence profile to two paragraphs. You can say, from mysterious to enticing.

Well, it worked. My profile was on fire. Alas, I was finally getting noticed and the future was looking bright again. The sky was filled with lots of color. One message and profile stood out. This message was courteous and polite, filled with compliments and desire, it was signed “Jay”. I decided to respond, one message led to another and we exchanged numbers. We talked on the phone and exchanged messages all day long. I got a good feeling and decided to meet two days later, which happened to be Friday. Apart from his physical characteristics, he is a complete gentleman. He is the perfect catch. Our meet & greet went great, chemistry was on point and then time to get serious. We talked about the details of our arrangement and negotiated terms, both parties pleased.

What is BDSM?

While many have the idea that BDSM is all about pain and domination, a whip or a flogger, leather outfits or face mask, there is actually more to it than the misconceptions that follow people who practice. For a while, I, too believed a master/mistress is hard, strict, controlling and mean and a slave/submissive is weak and scared. I have tried to be a submissive, and unfortunately for my nature, that relationship didn’t turn out so well but at least I learnt and now am aware. Contrary to what the media perceives, a BDSM relationship is just like any other relationship. Trust and respect are just as important and getting used to each other or learning and understanding what one likes and is capable off is necessary.


Over the years and as time has gone by, I have learnt that being a submissive is just as powerful as being a master in the master/slave relationship. A master/mistress will not do what a submissive does not agree to. BDSM relationships encourage fidelity, reduces anxiety especially with role playing, increases communication and yeah, let’s not forget improves intimacy as some of the perks.

Why it Works for Me

As a mistress to Jay, it is my responsibility to take care and guide him. Give him my attention and devotion when need be. It is important for him and I to trust and respect each other. All I have to do is say it and he does it. I know his limits, preference and kind of stuff that fascinates him. I’m not quick to punish, I give room for improvement and correction.

 

A BDSM relationship is perfect because I am not into a vanilla lifestyle. I love role playing and being dominant. I am satisfied when a man surrenders to me, he can be the boss in his everyday life but at the end of the day when he is with me, I am his boss. This arrangement works for me because outside of this, we both have our own lives. And outside of our playroom, we appear as a normal couple, that hold hands in public and cuddle when we can.

How to Find a BDSM Daddy

Finding a BDSM daddy is as easy as finding a daddy. First, you have to realize and be sure that this is the lifestyle you want. Decide on which role appeals to you and be open about what you want. Do you enjoy being tied up or restrained? Do you enjoy giving orders? Chances are the POT you meet might have interest in this lifestyle but it is not something he shows. If he is not into the lifestyle and it is just a fantasy, it can help to spice up your sex life. Be creative and always do research before indulging in your fantasy. Lastly, but not the least is to keep in mind that BDSM play should be safe, sane and consensual.


What my BDSM daddy and I have is mutual understanding of what we both desire. We have an agreement that leaves us both satisfied. He wants to make me happy, serve me and meet my needs. For me, someone to pamper and spoil me. I’m kind and considerate but firm and direct. Jay is observant and obedient. I dominate him and he surrenders to me.