Sexual Fetishes 101

By Contessa

Apr 13, 2017

As a sugar baby, prepare yourself to come across all sorts of sexual fetishes. Anything from him wanting you to wear stockings to perhaps something more strong such as wanting you to urinate on him in the shower. Exactly what is a sexual fetish? Here we will explore three common fetishes, understand what each entails, and learn exactly how to win him over with his kink with our Sexual Fetishes 101 blog.

So What Exactly, is a Sexual Fetish?

Remember when you were younger and there was that one toy or blanket that made you feel better, no matter what? Without realizing, you formed an instant attraction and attachment to this object and over time, it gradually built up, as it comforted you throughout your childhood. Fetishes are comparable to this. Although, rather than having a calming effect, they will inevitably excite you.

In other words, it is a lot like your sexual orientation; you don’t necessarily choose it, but you are immediately turned on by it. It is fair to say that nearly everyone, from your best friend to your boss, has some sort of fetish. Simply preferring one part of your partner’s body over another, or enjoying lingerie, falls under the ‘fetish’ umbrella.

Put Your Best Foot Forward

One of the most common fetishes that is widely talked about and rarely understood is a foot fetish. There’s nothing wrong or sinful about being attracted to feet. Just like some men go crazy over long legs or a rather prominent posterior, other men find feet to be alluring.

Foot fetishism, also referred to as podophilia, is a heightened and specific sexual interest in feet and/or footwear. It is the most common form of sexual fetishism for otherwise non-sexual objects or body parts, and is more prevalent in men than women.

For someone who has a foot fetish, bare feet can feel more erotic and intense than seeing a woman naked. If your sugar daddy opens up to you about his love of feet, you may want to incorporate this into your sex play.

A person who has a foot fetish could become sexually excited through licking the heel of your stiletto or from having you step on your partner with your bare feet. As a sugar baby, you may even feel bold enough to progress on to fully stimulating his manhood with your fancy footwork.

Another option, that will also be great for you, is to suggest he indulge you in all things feet! Perhaps he could treat you to a fancy pedicure, a sensual foot massage or simply a brand new pair of shoes. This will not only show him you want to adhere to his fondness of feet but it can also be like foreplay for him. Curious about learning more about enjoying your sugar daddy’s foot fetish?

One thing you will most certainly notice in men who have a foot fetish is that they quite simply want to worship your feet and that in turn, puts you on top. Literally.

Dress for Success

The vinyl fetish, also known as the ‘latex or leather fetish’, is a preference for specific clothing made from vinyl, latex or leather. If your sugar daddy gets aroused just through seeing you wearing some leather, he may well have this underlying fetish.

The fetish extends from the visual to the touchable, as the shiny, soft material is often perceived in a sexual and erotic way. Outfits are usually extremely skin tight and reveal your shape to the nth degree. How could he not find that a major turn on?

One thing to note, if your sugar daddy does have this kink, is that he most likely wants you to keep it on before, during and after. The combination of latex and some vigorous bedroom Olympics can certainly result in one hot mess!

As outfits made from these materials are notoriously difficult to squeeze into, it may be worth doing the hard work in good time before he is due round, so you have a chance to ease into it and greet him looking scorching hot – in a good way!

Of course, another feature of this specific type of clothing is the squeaky, rubbery sounds it makes when worn and moved around in. This fetish is certainly one for the senses. The look, smell, feel, taste and sound are all very distinctive and playing on these features with your sugar daddy is a sure fire way to get him begging for more.

Brand Spanking New

As children, being threatened with a smack was the worst punishment of them all and the very thought of being thrown over the knee was enough to send us running. However, as adults, spanking is an extremely common fetish and carrying this out is a huge turn on for many people.

The general consensus seems to be that the thrill people get from spanking is due to the fine line between pleasure and pain. Dopamine, which is the chemical in our brains released when participating in reward-motivated activities, is the same neurotransmitter that makes us feel pain. Therefore, it is easy to see why erotic spanking combines the two effects perfectly and can be an arousing addition to foreplay and sex.

Being submissive or dominant with your partner can be a sexy role play that spanking easily falls under. Arguably, the spanker is in control but of course you can tell your sugar daddy exactly how hard to smack! When spanked, the blood rises to the top of the buttocks giving it a tingling sensation and then using a light feather, a soft blow or kiss on the area can create chills.

If your sugar daddy has a particular liking for spanking, there are some great accessories he can purchase to put you both very much in the right frame of mind. Spanking is not only a fabulous act of transgression, dominance and submission, skill and style and when done properly, it also confers a singularly mind-blowing sexual ecstasy.

Embrace the Kink Sugar Baby

Writer’s Tip: As a sugar baby, or heck, just as a human being, never do something you are uncomfortable with or feel obliged to do. A fetish, mainstream or otherwise, should be mutually pleasurable and fun. Always discuss boundaries outside of the bedroom, and even create a safe word to use for in the heat of the moment – it really does work!

With the above information and a willingness to try something that might be new, your SD’s fetish can be a fun for both you and him while adding a dynamic aspect to your arrangement.