Sexual Health and Sugar

By Eva C.

Jul 11, 2018

When’s the last time you had a conversation about sexually transmitted diseases? When’s the last time you were tested?

The Sugar Bowl is a place to find sophisticated relationships. It is also a place to have a mature, evolved discourse on sexual health. Given the prevalence of this epidemic and the need for open, honest conversations about this subject, let’s drop the stigma. You can have an STD and still have a healthy, wonderful life. This is both in and out of the bedroom. Prevention is the key to addressing STDs. This blog will detail why you should be aware of STDs. How to stay safe, and how to initiate a productive conversation with your partner.

This is a Big Issue 

One reason STI’s are so common is that the public doesn’t know that much about them. In addition to that, we REALLY don’t know how to talk about them. Many schools don’t teach any kind of sexual education. Those that do can be more confusing than constructive. For example, my co-ed health class was taught by a flustered, retired football coach. We skipped over a lot of important information and were left with plenty of questions.

Ready for some shocking statistics?

Over 30% of Americans have an STD. Some sexually transmitted diseases, like syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia, are spreading at epidemic levels. Over 2 million new cases were reported in 2016.  Other sexually transmitted infections are even more common, as researchers estimate over 20 million new cases occur each year. However, many of these infections – think millions of cases – produce no symptoms, thereby going untreated. This underscores the importance of regular screenings.

To reduce your risk, you should use a contraception correctly, every time. Also, please be aware that STIs can spread through ANY exchange of ANY fluids, not just ‘traditional sex.’ Finally, contracting an STI doesn’t make you a bad person. It certainly doesn’t exclude you from love and intimacy.

Let’s Talk about Sex

Now that you are up to speed on STDs, it is time to initiate that conversation with your Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy. Whether you are just getting to know each other or have been exclusive for years. It shouldn’t be taboo to talk about sexual health with a future or current partner. It is uncomfortable. Have this talk in a quiet, private place, where you are unlikely to be overheard or disturbed. Set the mood with some calming ambient music. Calm your nerves with a glass of wine. Then, tell your Sugar Daddy that you read an awesome article on sexual health and wanted to discuss safe sex. By creating a comfortable space, being well-informed on the issues, and going in with a plan, you’re setting a good tone for the conversation.

End the talk by making a plan to both get tested. We ALL deserve safe sex. Regular STD screenings are crucial in reducing the spread of these diseases.

How to tell your SB/SD about an STD

First things first: yes, you can Sugar with an STD. (Remember, we checked our stigma at the top of this article!) Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies are drawn from a large swath of life. So it is just a fact that a significant portion of this population has an STD. Check out the forums for more advice and experiences!

In any relationship, you should be very honest about this topic. One option is to put this information on your profile. While you will likely receive fewer messages, the messages you do get will be from people who won’t see the condition as a dealbreaker. Additionally, this technique will make you more attractive to a partner with a similar affliction.

When having an in-person conversation, begin by briefly explaining the condition and how it affects you. Much of the fear and stigma associated with STDs is the result of misinformation. So this really is an important step.

Next, statistics are on your side, so make them work for you! For example, at least 3.7 billion people, almost half of the world population, has the HSV-1 virus, more commonly known as a strain of herpes. If a partner breaks things off because of HSV-1, odds are their next partner would carry the virus as well! Essentially, you are a ‘safer’ choice because you are aware of the condition, can mitigate the risks, and are on top of your sexual health.

Having this conversation demonstrates you care about your partner and respect their health, and those are very attractive qualities. Make sure to ask if your partner has any lingering questions or concerns before the topic changes.

STDs are 100% preventable, so let’s prevent them. Get tested, be vocal, and use protection!