Sugar Slut Shaming

By Brook

Oct 16, 2015

Have you ever been called a slut? Being a woman means being met with degrading terms for doing the same things men are praised for. Especially in the Sugar World, women are shamed and ridiculed by the media, making Sugar Babies an easy target for slut shaming.

Expressing what you want in a man and going after it shouldn’t be criticized, and whether you’re intimate should never matter to others. You are a sexual being, and shouldn’t be shamed for embracing that. Here’s what you need to know about Sugar slut shaming and how to avoid it.

What is a slut?

In most women’s minds, a slut is someone who’s had more sex than you, or openly has sex with whoever she wants. In my opinion, YASSSS QUEEN! You are the empress of your body and your destiny, so don’t let the haters tell you how to live. And more importantly, don’t hate on other women for having sex.

We’re all adults here.

There are many critics who slut shame the Sugar community for having sex with men who are willing to spoil them. The fact to remember here is that no one is an unwilling participant in the Sugar community. Core values of the sex-positive movement, like consent and being safe, are vital in Sugar relationships, and women shouldn’t have to second guess themselves for choosing to be intimate with their partners.

Hold out a little.

Sometimes we slut shame ourselves, due to the negative stereotypes from the public. It’s important to trust yourself when becoming intimate, and never do it for the sole purpose of being financially rewarded. Even if you are attracted to a POT, I’ll advise you all to NEVER have sex on the first date. In Sugar, you need to be careful not to send the wrong message. You want him to know that the intimacy is brought on by the relationship, not the allowance.

Talk about sex more.

The number one way to maintain positivity in your sex life is openness.. Talking about sex doesn’t make you a slut, it makes you an intelligent woman. Learn all you can about sex! There are so many articles and sex-positive resources for information. Plenty of people don’t like talking about sex, a habit passed down from our protestant roots and, sometimes, conservative parents. Break that tradition, and talk about sex.

The road to sex-positivity is short and sweet when you dissolve the stigmas surrounding women’s sexual decisions. Take the time to look inward and respect your body, then do the same for your Sugar Sisters, and women everywhere.