Dealing with Sugaring and Family

By Julia Jones

Feb 10, 2019

When it comes to living the sugaring lifestyle, sometimes people will start to ask questions. If you’re in the position where you’re accepting money or gifts from your daddy eventually you might be confronted about the lifestyle you’re living, and you might have to talk to your family about it- so how should you do that? You have a few options.

Be 100% honest about everything

Tell your friends and family that you’re sugaring. If you take this route, be sure to follow it up with a bit of an explanation about what you’re doing and how you’re arrangements work, and be sure to polish it up so that it sounds the best it can (come on, we all want to make the best impression about something for the first time!) and explain why you decided to try it, and how it’s benefited you.
Your friends and family might not understand it, but when you’re done explaining it, they should realize that it is a good option for you and has benefited you, and they should be more than happy to try and accept it- but you should understand it might be hard for them.

Beat around the bush

Just tell friends and family that you’re seeing someone who is in a better financial position than you and likes to help you out. It’s not quite a lie, but it doesn’t give your family all the details that they might not want to know. Which may be good for them in the long run, it might not be something your family actually wants to know and I think that’s important to consider.

Vague answers have a place in the world, as much as we might not like admitting it and sometimes even if our friends and family aren’t happy by them, it is what is best for them. Sometimes, it’s not a matter of what we are or are not willing to share, it’s a matter of what they need.

Lie about it

I’m not going to lie, you could just lie about it and be done with it. Let them know that the money was a work bonus, that the gift was something you won, or that you got a good deal on something.
Now, normally I shouldn’t encourage someone to lie but it is an option for you and it is worth mentioning because it is an option for you. And, it might be a good option for you. Like I said above, sometimes it’s not a matter of us, it’s a matter of what our friends and family need or what they will not be able to handle.

Tell them you don’t want to talk about it

When it comes down to it, this is your life and if you don’t want to talk about it is your choice. If you decide you don’t want to give details about how you’re affording your lifestyle, let your family and friends know that. And ask that they respect your wishes- but let them know that you are alright and that you’re making ends meet without your family having to worry about it.

When it comes down to it, there will probably come a day when you’re faced with having to pick one of these options. It’s always good to have an idea of how you’re going to answer that. It’s important to consider if it is best for your family and friends to not bother knowing about your sugar life as well but more than that, it’s important to make sure that whatever you chose to tell your friends or family members, it is what you feel is best.