He messaged you… Says he’s read your profile a few times and thinks you sound amazing! You check his profile… He’s handsome, athletic, single, with assets of several million. Could he be your perfect sugar daddy? Perhaps… But proceed with caution!
It’s easy to get excited when someone who is our image of perfection reaches out and says he’s interested. Having met multiple POTs, and having secured several arrangements over time, here’s what I’ve learned about how to weed through the fakes and shake out the salt.
Scam Warning: Send Me Your Bank Info
There are warnings on Seeking Arrangement and all over the forums of Let’s Talk Sugar that say, NEVER give out your bank account or personal information! Nonetheless, I still see posts in the Advice or Money forums where a new and innocent sugar baby has provided her bank account information to someone online who has promised to send her money.
A real sugar daddy would never ask for your account information. Gifting may be done in cash, through PayPal, Venmo or with a pre-paid Visa for your spending pleasure!
If it Seems Bitter, It’s Probably Salt
One POT went so far as to have a three-day texting marathon with me, describing his past arrangements; how he’s really looking forward to the possibility of a long-term arrangement with me; how we’ll wine and dine, and he’ll treat me to the very best of everything.
When it came time to set a date for a first meeting, he suggested brunch at his condo, followed by playtime. I explained my ground rules to him, and he acknowledged them. Ten sentences later, he suggested that he could break away from work for “an hour or so” and meet me at his place! When I again told him that I’d rather our first meeting be somewhere in public, he stopped texting altogether. Plain and simple, this guy was a total salt, trying to lure unsuspecting sugar babies into who-knows-what.
The time I wasted during our texting marathon can’t be regained, but I was glad that I spotted his ulterior motives early on. If a potential sugar daddy doesn’t want to take even 20 minutes of time to meet you for coffee and see if things click, then he’s not looking for a sugar relationship.
One Fish, Two Fish, Catfish, Ew Fish!
I’ve had two instances where older sugar daddies presented photos with a full head of dark hair and a youngish-looking face and body. I discovered in real life that they were white-haired or balding with turkey necks and a rather big tummy! Another who had scheduled a coffee meeting with me. He said, “I’ll be waiting inside the door of Starbucks. I have white hair and wire-rimmed glasses.” My jaw dropped. His description was NOTHING like the picture in his profile!
How can you protect yourself? If you don’t have the luxury of checking them out ahead of time walk away. Prior to meeting a POT, I do my best to image search his photos. It’s easiest when a POT provides you with his real name prior to a meet. Not all daddies are keen on sharing their last name right off the bat, there are other ways to search.